rockergirllv Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I'll start off by saying I am 17. I've been dating this guy for almost a year now. We first met through texting. A mutual friend of ours gave me his number. We texted for months before meeting for the first time in march last year. We became a couple on April 2. Over the summer he spent almost everyday at my house. He's in college 3 hours away so that ended when he went back to college. Every break he gets he comes to my house and stays here. We planned on having him move in with me this coming summer. I love him. A lot. I used to think he was the one. He really is perfect on paper. He's in college, he gets a job whenever he's not in college, he has a car, he treats me like a princess, he tells me all the time how beautiful and amazing I am. My mom absolutely loves him. We have discussed our future together, example-marriage, living arrangments, etc. I don't find him extremely attractive but he is cute to me. He's a very sensitive guy. He cries and gets angry easily (not violent angry, he'd never hurt me), he also gets very happy over little things. Which I like about him. But for some reason I'm doubting our relationship. Am I too young to settle down? Am I just the girl who always wants what she can't have? (The single life) should I try and act like a bad girlfriend so he leaves me instead? I need advice :/
EuTuBrute Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 What ever you do, DO NOT act like a bad girlfriend... Mine did that after dating 2.5 years, so I could break up with her. Its straight up mean and immature and not how you treat someone who "loves" you. It broke my heart that someone i care about could be so cold and mean to me. I say you you should sit down and explain your true feelings. HE might understand, and that will leave the bridge open for the future.
Author rockergirllv Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 I have talked to him about how I've been having doubts but it didn't really resolve any of my feelings. I just told him how I felt and why and he just listened and said he doesn't want to lose me.
Purepony Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Heres are a few suggestions 1. Your 17 you dont need to settle down for now. You have years to plan settling down. 2. Sounds like hes your first bf but your unsure of something ... what do you think it is? Did you meet someone one? Do you want to see what else is out there? 3. Are you unhappy?
BDL Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 My advice is for you to dump him. You're not strongly attracted to him because although he treats you nice, he isn't being the strong man he needs to be to make you feel safe and secure in the relationship. A guy who cries and gets angry easily is still a boy. Acting like a bad girlfriend so he dumps you is a terrible idea. Just be honest with him, you are not attracted to him anymore and that you want to break up. He will cry, beg, plead, buy you flowers, sing you a song, show up at your door unexpectedly, etc, but he will stop after a while when he realizes he needs to grow up, and be the man he needs to be. You will be doing him a huge favor... and perhaps in time he will come to appreciate this.
pickflicker Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 You have to be a grown up. If you want out, you have to break up with him. Welcome to adulthood.
Author rockergirllv Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 He's not my first boyfriend. I'm a little experienced with dating. I've been with girls too. And I'm not really unhappy per say. Like I said he treats me right and makes me happy. I guess I want to see what else there is to life.
Author rockergirllv Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 It sounds like GIGS to me. What is GIGS?
OzHeartache Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 What is GIGS? Grass Is Greener Syndrome
David87 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I'm sorry for your boyfriend.... he'll never know what hit him.
Heroeric Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 4 months ago my girlfriend of a year (officially anyways) broke up with me. We were perfect, I'm 20 and she was 17. We had our future planed out like yours, and from what I come to understand why she left me was; first off she felt deep down she had a whole life to live, a life she felt she couldn't live if she settled down with me. Knowing me, I don't like drinking, weed, and parties a whole lot, but she wanted to be apart of the scene and big time. Secondly, she was scared, scared about how it was all gonna happen so soon. In a sense, I believe maybe your feeling something like this deep down. Maybe your afraid you can't live your life to its fullest, or that it's going too fast. Regardless, first thing you should do is meditate over this and really deep down figure out why out of the blues you wanna leave. Once you find out, you can express it to him and go from there. Just let me say this, you end it with him now and a month down the road you may realize maybe it wasn't the right thing to do, and it could be too late. Listen to your heart once you find out the real reason, your not too young for love but you have alot ahead of you.
Trep Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 What is GIGS? This. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/251986-grass-greener-syndrome
Els Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 He's not my first boyfriend. I'm a little experienced with dating. I've been with girls too. And I'm not really unhappy per say. Like I said he treats me right and makes me happy. I guess I want to see what else there is to life. You've been with multiple guys AND girls at 17? Huh, kids these days must grow up real fast! Seriously, if you want to leave, then just do it. You don't owe anyone anything.
skydiveaddict Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Am I too young to settle down? Yes, much too young.
OpheliaSong Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 He's not my first boyfriend. I'm a little experienced with dating. I've been with girls too. And I'm not really unhappy per say. Like I said he treats me right and makes me happy. I guess I want to see what else there is to life. Be nice but let him go. It is the sweetest thing you can do, and yes, it is perfectly reasonable at seventeen to want to see and experience different things in life so you can figure out who you really are and what you really want in life.
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