mitzymoo Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 So help me please...I have an affair, we are both married, he's got older kids, mine young. he gradually ends it by less texts as wife starts to work at home. We have sex one last time, he is like a man who has not had it for months totally loosing the plot, adoring everything I do to him. We discuss why it's ending......he doesn't want to get caught( daughter getting married) , retiring, wife brings in all the money, I've got young kids, then he tells me " your too hot to handle " and "I'm being serious" he said....is he a dick or am I just too much for him he needs to stay away ?????!!!!!!!
anne1707 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 To me, it just sounds like one of those things said in the middle of sex. It's just a line, nothing more, nothing less. 1
kalimata Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Mitzy: sounds like this guy is a piece of work. He only likes the sex. You say that he ends it gradually but then Drop him like a hot-potato. Insist upon no-contact. Resist the urge to reply to this POS. I would tell your husband what you did if I were you. The guilt of having an affair will eventually come upon you. May you find peace
sunburned Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 So help me please...I have an affair, we are both married, he's got older kids, mine young. he gradually ends it by less texts as wife starts to work at home. We have sex one last time, he is like a man who has not had it for months totally loosing the plot, adoring everything I do to him. We discuss why it's ending......he doesn't want to get caught( daughter getting married) , retiring, wife brings in all the money, I've got young kids, then he tells me " your too hot to handle " and "I'm being serious" he said....is he a dick or am I just too much for him he needs to stay away ?????!!!!!!! Probably both. The beginning of the end of mine ended with a decrease in communication, W getting (justifiably) nosier, him getting more fearful of being caught. I'm sure he thought you were great in bed, but not worth the tradeoff (the trade being potentially losing his family and his "stuff."). But he sounds like a jerk. So keep that at the forefront as you move on. Good riddance!
Realist3 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 I'm going to differ and presume the guy is being honest. What he is saying to me is that relationship risks too much for him currently and he is unable to compartmentalize what he is feeling.
RickFox Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 How long did the affair last? I don't think it has anything to do with compartmentalizing. You were a fling, he's done, he got it out of his system and now he goes back to his life.
Author mitzymoo Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 Hey guys, thanks so much for your thoughts on this. I agree with you all, he wanted sex and we had discussed at the forefront that's what the affair was about ! I know the trade off is def not worth it if him at his age, was 10 yrs older, retiring and been caught b4 in his other affair and said it was hideous. I'm busy with a young family... Why would he want that !!! I so know I need to erase this from my life, hoping this site and some support can help me. Thanks as so far you all made me smile and realise I need to def be nicer to myself. Rickfox it lasted 3 yrs. I see him professionally now and then and I know that if I see him again he will still want to have sex then I won't hear again for months... Be strong , I have to be don't i. Problem is I loved the sex !!!
road Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Hey guys, thanks so much for your thoughts on this. I agree with you all, he wanted sex and we had discussed at the forefront that's what the affair was about ! I know the trade off is def not worth it if him at his age, was 10 yrs older, retiring and been caught b4 in his other affair and said it was hideous. I'm busy with a young family... Why would he want that !!! I so know I need to erase this from my life, hoping this site and some support can help me. Thanks as so far you all made me smile and realise I need to def be nicer to myself. Rickfox it lasted 3 yrs. I see him professionally now and then and I know that if I see him again he will still want to have sex then I won't hear again for months... Be strong , I have to be don't i. Problem is I loved the sex !!! Now you have learned that men will say whatever they have to to get some side action. When they have enough the find some BS reason to end it. You need to get another job and go NC with the OM.
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