hiphop Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Hey sup to all. I need a lot of help me and my girlfriend has been dating for 2 years. we loved each other so much. We were good to each other all the time. Lately things have been hard and both of us because we don’t she each other has much as we like to. She goes to college and so do I and her step dad is going to die he has cancer and her real dad he has this disease 4 got what its called and she lost her job last week and her mom is having a hard time. Also what make this so hard is that my mom is religious and me and her (girl friend) are not the same religion on top of that I am black and she is white ppl look at us soo different its makes me sick to know ppl are like that man but I told her that be for I don’t care wat ppl think and as long as we are happy that good. So what happened is she called me last Friday and said she does not like how she does not see me a lot and I understand its hard but she also said she does not want to hurt me because she knows how much I love seeing her and she went on saying this is hard cause she has to be there for her family and there is no time for me and her so she broke up with me. So I called her back on Sunday and I will not lie I cried and said I loved her but she said that she had to be there for her self. So time went on and than I called her on Monday and got my act together and said that I loved her but she need to be there for her family and I understand I told her to call me if she ever needed anything big or small. she was very happy to hear that. So time went on I called her on Friday 4 days later and said how are u causes she is having a hard time in life right now. Than the craziest thing happened she was like don’t call me anymore cause ever time u call I think about the good times I was like I am calling as a friend that’s all but she said don’t call me anymore it hurts too much. That got me mad but I did not show her that so I need your help people Sunday I want to work it has been 1 week we were very good to each other i love her and she loved me 100%.Today i want to work and my friend tells me she was with a guy at a mall and than i ask her and she said hey she was than i called her best friend and she said it was her friend from college but my ex does not have guy friends at school i am 100%.so i dont no wat to do.where did all your love go a new guy 1 week that is not like her man **** she is a good girl I don’t know what to do she has not called me to say hey it’s a friend from college like her friend said Help
morrigan Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Your ex is going through a really stressful time with her family. You both are also in college, any number of people change their views on things, or start feeling disconnected from someone they really cared about. She also may have met someone else and does not want to string you along. It could be any of these, or it could be all of them. No one is a mind reader, so who knows exactly what your ex is thinking? All I can say is to have no contact for as much time as you need, don't call or contact her in any way. You can't change how she feels--she didn't want to be with you anymore, whatever the reason. I don't think you should wait for weeks or months for the very slight possibility that she will want to get back with you. You deserve better than that. If you keep seeing or talking to your ex, all the feelings you had for her are going to come back and it's going to make you feel terrible that she no longer feels the same way about you. You will meet other girls who will want to be with you. Realize the relationship you did have with your ex is over, focus on other things: family, friends, college life. It's tough, and it takes a while, but it's the best thing to do.
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