gem_star16 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Hi, really need some advice. I work at a little Italian Cafe, been there for about 4 months, there is a guy who comes in, from what my boss is said I know he owns a gym, he is gorgeous and comes in with his friends. Everytime he comes to my work, I end up acting like a complete idiot, he always winks at me when he comes in and asks how I am and smiles at me, if he talks to be i get really shy and answer quickly then start doing something else, if his friends talk to be I get embarrassed as well, I don't usually get like this about a guy, but this guy just pushes all my buttons. I don't know if he is even interested but I kind of get a feeling he fancies me, like the other day I was checking him out through the counter and his friend saw me. a bit later on I went over to clear their table and his friend was saying excuse me to me, I looked at him and he jokingly punched the guy (the one i like) in the face, I should of said something witty or reacted but I just kinda laughed and walked away, I felt like such an idiot, I wondered why his friend did that, then when they were leaving, he hung back til I came back out the front and said "Hey, why didn't you intervene or do something" And once again I could not think of anything to say so I just said "It's nothing to do with me and laughed" He laughed and said see you later and left. Mehhhh, I feel like such a tit around him, I think one problem is I think he might not be interested in me as he runs a business and I am just a waitress, and if I ask him out somehow and make a fool of myself then it would be so awkward when he came to eat at my work which is v regular. I do give him eye contact and smile, and he watches me sometimes when I am serving people, but I wonder if he thinks it is inappropriate to ask me out or if I am just smiling to be polite? Sorry for long post, but what do you all think??? Thanks xx
Philosoraptor Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Write your name and number on his cup. You'll get your point across and avoid any face to face confrontation as you are very shy around this fella. If he's interested he will make contact. If not, then you gave it a shot without putting too much out there.
Author gem_star16 Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 I can't we don't have any paper cups, I could make him a note with my number on and slip it to him when i give him change but it would be so embarrassing if his friends saw or he rejected me.
Philosoraptor Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Go with your idea. Life is about taking chances, and it's way too short to waste time. Better to try and know for sure, than to wonder what if when you see him come in with a woman on his arm one day. Could have been you if you could muster up some courage to do something about it. 2
HappyLove Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 This sounds really cute and him staying back to say something to you makes me think he fancies you. I'd try to strike up a conversation like maybe saying something like "how's your day going so far"? And keep smiling at him and give eye contact like you've been. He probably just needs that extra push to know you're interested. There's also the chance he's taken and maybe that's why he hasn't said anything. If he's a gorgeous business owner of a gym he could be involved. I hope he isn't though, good luck. Is there any way you could find out from a coworker or boss?
Author gem_star16 Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 Thanks for both your replies. I have asked my boss and he said he was not married, he has an ex and they have a child but are broken up, I have a child as well from a previous relationship so that is cool with me, but he never brings a girl in, his friend brings his Wife sometimes. I really hope he's single!!!
HappyLove Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Thanks for both your replies. I have asked my boss and he said he was not married, he has an ex and they have a child but are broken up, I have a child as well from a previous relationship so that is cool with me, but he never brings a girl in, his friend brings his Wife sometimes. I really hope he's single!!! Well if you have the guts I think handing your phone number to him while giving change was a great idea. At least you'll find out what's up that way. Good Luck!
Author gem_star16 Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 I might give it another week, and see what he acts like, I will try to be a little more confident and talk to him, just as soon as I see him, I get butterflies and go red in the face!
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