MrTurk Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Met another woman from the dating site. Talked on the phone 3 times, then met in person. Lasted about an hour, and it seemed like she really enjoyed herself(I don't rely on if they say they enjoyed it, because everyone always says that no matter what), but she seemed to really have fun. She even commented when walking to our cars that I can "pick her up next time", instead of driving separate. But then the next time we talked on the phone, and I try to set up a date, she totally back pedals, and tells me how she can't date anyone right now, but is willing to go out as friends and see what happens. This drives me totally nuts when people f'n flip flop like that!! I'm not asking why....because it's all speculation, just totally annoyed when it keeps happening over and over!
Philosoraptor Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 She met someone else she liked better but wants to keep you around just in case it doesn't work out with him. It happens. Don't put so much stock into whether or not someone likes you or not. Just go and have fun. If it leads somewhere, great. If not, just enjoy your time.
SadNLonley Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 I keep seeing bad OLD stories. When its time for me to get back to the dating scene, I hope my future husband comes knocking on my door because OLD and clubs are not going to work is seems. lol
Author MrTurk Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 She met someone else she liked better but wants to keep you around just in case it doesn't work out with him. It happens. Don't put so much stock into whether or not someone likes you or not. Just go and have fun. If it leads somewhere, great. If not, just enjoy your time. It's funny how even though in my post I blatantly wrote that I don't care WHY she did it. But true to form, most people that reply to the threads on this forum never pay attention when they read anyways. But since I'm here, I'll reply to your comment. You say not to worry about anything, just go with the flow and have fun. But what if I like the woman? According to you and most of the other people on here that give poor advice… I'm supposed to do the typical guy thing, and pretend like I'm not interested? How am I supposed to progress with the dating if I just go out and have fun and nothing else? How am I supposed to ask her for a second date without implying that I'm interested? Most of you people spit out your comments on here but when we actually break it down, and dissect what you say in relation to the situation, usually it doesn't make any sense whatsoever.
xxoo Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 You can feel and express interest, but just keep in mind that the interest is based on a very small base of knowledge about the person. When you know more, you may no longer be interested. So that is why it is necessary to stay in "let's see what does or does not develop" mode in the early stages. Even when your initial interest is strong, you need to know more to be certain that the interest is lasting.
carhill Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Rinse and repeat dozens to hundreds of times and you'll develop a perspective about it. Maybe you'll be lucky and it won't go like that. I recall getting to the point you're referring to after a few years of consistent interactions like that and said 'enough is enough' and started spending my money on world travel instead of taking women on dates. Between that and taking fifty bucks for every 'no' and buying oil company stock, those were great investments! Different strokes, I guess. It's OK to feel annoyed. My advice would be, if you do feel annoyed, stop dating. It's not fair to women who otherwise might be good potential partners to have to deal with the aura of your annoyed feelings.
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