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Hey everyone, I haven't been on here for a while. Last time I was on I had relationship issues with my x-girlfriend who I always use to fight with because she was a very self centered and selfish person. We stayed together for almost 3 years and I thought after breaking up I wouldn't find the right girl but a year later I found someone and now I'm in this relationship for 6 months now.

 

Her name is Lizzie. She's 32 divorced with 3 boys. I'm 42, divorced with 2 girls. We met through a mutual friend and hit it off almost immediately. She's a very beautiful girl, she get's told she look early 20's and whenever we go out guys are always looking at her, no one can believe that she's a mom, I didn't believe it at first either.

 

So here we are, Lizzie is totally opposite from my x-girlfriend. She's loves me alot, she's very caring, wants to see me all the time, very giving, etc. She's seems too nice sometimes. What I'm I'm getting at here is that I have no reason to think that we aren't working out at all. But now comes that part that I'm battling with.... you see, I think my previous relationship with my x really tainted me. She cheated on me and I never really trusted her, I had no reason too and it really ****ed me up with relationships moving forward. Now I feel very insecure in relationships, I get scared that Lizzie might cheat on me, or want to get back with her x or something to that nature. She shows no signs of it but for some reason it always stick in the back of my head.

 

So my problem for now is that I feel very lonely when I'm not around her, I want to be with her all the time and when I'm not with her I'm constantly thinking about her to the point that it consumes my entire day every day. I feel like I'm depressed when I don't hear from her for a few hours. Our lives are a little different, she lives with her mom and her 3 boys, I live with a room mate but only see my daughters every other week. She has a fulltime job, I have a very flexible part time job so i have ALOT of time on my hands which I think may be part of my problem. I just don't understand why I get so attached in relationships. I get so caught up in Lizzie that I'm not motivated to do much of anything except for wanting to be with her and hang out. When I'm in between relationships I don't get this feeling in the pit of my stomach because there's no one to "miss" I guess, but now that Lizzie is around I "miss" her all the time and I have this constant burn feeling in my stomach until I hear from her then it goes away and I'm always happy when I'm with her.

 

What's wrong with me? Insecure? Self-esteem? Depression?

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Well there is your issue there. You're not feeling like crap, you just have too much time on your hands. If she's a good match for you like you say she is, then work on the rest of your life. Fill it out with hobbies and time spent with friends and family.

 

There is no issue. You like her and miss her... cue the "aww's". Nothing wrong with that, but don't let it consume you. Just do more with your time and enjoy the rest of life as well.

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