kat1012 Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes see each other in mutual events. We are friendly with each other at the events. Sometimes we talk to each other, sometimes we don't I drunk texted him like two times before. First time was on my birthday, which I sent too many texts after he text me happy birthday and I got drunk. Last time was the previous week, which I just said "what happened?". he just made fun of me being a light-weight. I apologized that time, he just said "been there done that, nothing to be embarrassed if we could laugh about it" The past Friday, I was drinking with my friends (which I met after the break-up). Apparently one of my friend knows my ex, and my ex came to find him and joined us for a while. Me and my friend got pretty drunk. When my ex disappeared, me and my friend were texting him together, using my phone :/ (and my ex knows some of stuff was written by my friend not me) He's just made fun of what we were texting, asking me to stop messaging, sober up. My friend didn't know he was my ex, and he figured it out which left me shocked for a bit (becoz I dun think I was so drunk that I told him about it). so I texted my ex "****, (my friend) knows about our secret. Either he's too smart or I am too drunk." followed by "if you or (my friend) tell anyone about us, I will castrate whoever talks about it and I know anatomy so none of you dies" My ex just replied "I didn't tell him". For the following hours, I texted him like "he's def too smart" and then correct the spelling mistakes I made every hour. He didn't reply any further. I woke up realizing what I sent and was really embarrassed. I was hoping to maintain the friendly status with my ex, and will be at same events with him in the future. Should I just leave it act like it didn't happen or should I apologize? and I wont drunk text again!! Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes see each other in mutual events. We are friendly with each other at the events. Sometimes we talk to each other, sometimes we don't I drunk texted him like two times before. First time was on my birthday, which I sent too many texts after he text me happy birthday and I got drunk. Last time was the previous week, which I just said "what happened?". he just made fun of me being a light-weight. I apologized that time, he just said "been there done that, nothing to be embarrassed if we could laugh about it" The past Friday, I was drinking with my friends (which I met after the break-up). Apparently one of my friend knows my ex, and my ex came to find him and joined us for a while. Me and my friend got pretty drunk. When my ex disappeared, me and my friend were texting him together, using my phone :/ (and my ex knows some of stuff was written by my friend not me) He's just made fun of what we were texting, asking me to stop messaging, sober up. My friend didn't know he was my ex, and he figured it out which left me shocked for a bit (becoz I dun think I was so drunk that I told him about it). so I texted my ex "****, (my friend) knows about our secret. Either he's too smart or I am too drunk." followed by "if you or (my friend) tell anyone about us, I will castrate whoever talks about it and I know anatomy so none of you dies" My ex just replied "I didn't tell him". For the following hours, I texted him like "he's def too smart" and then correct the spelling mistakes I made every hour. He didn't reply any further. I woke up realizing what I sent and was really embarrassed. I was hoping to maintain the friendly status with my ex, and will be at same events with him in the future. Should I just leave it act like it didn't happen or should I apologize? and I wont drunk text again!! Why did your ex break up with you - did it involve you drinking too much? haha. Take it easy with the drinking, especially when it involves texting your ex...which I would not recommend doing anymore. Out of courtesy, if you and your ex are friends, I would apologize, "sorry for the drunk texts the other night." Short and sweet. Also maybe throw in a line about how you're trying to work on drinking too much. Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Take his number out of your phone and get your self control back, he will lose all respect if he hasnt already imo Link to post Share on other sites
Author kat1012 Posted February 10, 2014 Author Share Posted February 10, 2014 Why did your ex break up with you - did it involve you drinking too much? haha. Take it easy with the drinking, especially when it involves texting your ex...which I would not recommend doing anymore. Out of courtesy, if you and your ex are friends, I would apologize, "sorry for the drunk texts the other night." Short and sweet. Also maybe throw in a line about how you're trying to work on drinking too much. He drinks more often than me lol, just that he holds his drinks better haha. He used to drunk text or, in the later part of the relationship, called me at 4 and woke me up (which sometimes pissed me off) I just don't know if what I said about "him and his friend should not talk to anyone else about us" may put him off (make me sound like I am embarrased that we date?), but at that moment I was worried about gossips among people at the events I go to, how they may think I am the crazy ex. and when I was drunk, I say things without going them through my head first. Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Ps. If he didnt respond, do not apologize, only makes it look like your trying to find more reasons to text. If he wanted to talk to you, even if it was a drunk meaningless text he would have used it as his in or excuse to be writing. Take the hint he is trying to move on & not have contact. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I just it myself -- but for different reasons and scared the hell put of myself. You just don't think with alcohol. This last one has made me decide to not have my wine anymore. I have an illness, and my judgment is off. I am done with the wine. Look how many times you've done this to your guy. I did it too except mine would blow you out of the water. No kid, seriously bad character disimalment. All true - but didn't need to be said in a drunken angry tone for ten minuites with 100 swears, that would give you a wedge. I a damn lucky it wasn't played in trial. It's alcohol Hon. Just a couple glasses of wine at home mixed with being pissed off or sad can cause me to make the mistake - and then the shame follows. You mentioned being out drinking more than one time. I'm going to suggest thatbyou drink non-alcoholic drinks when you have a cell phone near you or are near this person. This is how to "fix" the mistake, along with noy being at such locations. Never be the last to leave. Fun, classy girls always gotta get going! One drink at most (Shirley Temple), cause u have to drive, then get going! You can come out of this. Yas PS. If subject comes up with guy, tell him he is right, you are a light weight and get too tipsy even on one drink so your sticking with Shirley's. He will respect you for that. Link to post Share on other sites
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I think you need to delete his number from your phone. You are just pushing him further away. I mean, that must be really annoying for him. Instead of saying sorry, just delete his number and move on from it. Being drunk is not an excuse, we all know what we are doing. I've made the same mistake you have, but I knew exactly what I was doing...being drunk just made me more careless about it...but I still was aware of the repercussions. Next time you go out, keep your phone turned off and put away. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 I think deep down you know being drunk is the only way you can get away (along with liquid courage) with texting without really blaming yourself for doing it, so you get drunk because it's the perfect opportunity to enable what you know you shouldn't do. Blaming it on the alcohol is easier than just admitting that you want to have communication with him therefore being drunk is the perfect excuse. If you know two is two too many, control your intake. If you know alcohol makes you text (poor excuse because YOU make you text), stop drinking till you lose yourself. You can't behave this way and then try and backpeddle hoping an apology will change things. You are creating an impression and a bad one. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 This is exactly why you should delete his number from your phone. Drunk texting an ex makes you look ridiculous. I know you aren't, but you have to be stronger than to let yourself go down that path. I too made the mistake of firing off some angry texts at my ex, and I feel so foolish now for doing so. I should have just stayed silent. Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Well, I'm gonna speak my mind. I sincerely don't think he cares. Seems like drunk calling/texting happens a bit between you two. I think maybe he was a bit annoyed, but I doubt it. I'm sure a simple "sorry, not even sure what I was trying to say. Totally need that app where it locks your phone after a few too many drinks or something, haha". All these other ppl are hung up on the fact that you HAVE to stay NC in order to "heal. They are right.....that is one way to heal. EDIT: I just realized that you were drunk texting your ex...while drunk and with another guy? Yeah, I would be annoyed too. Just apologize. You'll find out if he's a "friend" or just pretending pretty quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 He already forgave it once though...now hes just thinking enough already. Do you want him to see you as his drunk sloppy ex who cant stop partying and focusing on him? NO. A guy wants a girl who is independent, has it together. This is just not a good look at all. Sends the worst message and any more contact looks worse. He knows how to reach you, so lay low. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted February 10, 2014 Share Posted February 10, 2014 Don't apologize. He won't see it as you being sorry necessarily -- he'll see it as another ploy by you to try to get him to come back to you. No apologies and no more drunk texts. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted February 11, 2014 Share Posted February 11, 2014 Sounds like you use the booze as an excuse for poor decision making... I'm guessing you are under 25??? Link to post Share on other sites
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