jcrew11 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I recently met a woman who told me one of the important things she wants out of a man is that he has a good job. I understand wanting to date men WITH a job, but there are some people who feel when women say things like "I want a man with a good career" it rubs them off the wrong way. Some have gone far to call them a gold-digger. Personally I feel what I do for a living doesn't play a factor in what makes for a meaningful relationship. What are your opinions on this? I think most women acknowledge the stats that Men on average have higher salaries than women on average. So if a man is not reaching his potential in his career, then he is potentially dead weight that will take money from the woman. Plus, any attractive woman who wants children and a house, knows she has the beauty to snag a well-paid husband, and she doesn't need to settle for an unemployed loser.
Els Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I don't see the need to dissect others' requirements. As long as her requirements are working out for her and she's happy, then it's all good, regardless of whether she wants a guy with a good job or a guy who likes wearing pink polka dot hose. What really annoys me is people who seem to think that the only acceptable requirements/preferences are their own.
Pinch Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Yea I have come across this before.Don't get involved with someone who needs to make checks on a list before she can date you.These women are usually extremely selfish.One in from my own experience and two from close friends.My experience was while i was in my good job, working my ass off not only for me but for her.She noticed the ambition and strive to better us and stuck around.Even after a promotion she began to assume I'd still pay for everything and do everything for her.she made a few K less then me and I was the one always broke.few months later the company shut down and I needed her while i searched for work.a month went by and I got the "ambitious" line from her.I wasn't ambitious enough for her she wanted more out of life.....Gold digger, looking for free ride.Similar issue with other well off friends...Now I actually look for women that don't drive new 40k cars and look like the work hard for their money.These have been the nicest most understanding and loyal women.They will support you, not use you as support. Happy dating!
peruano99 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I would expect the women who want a man with a good job have good jobs themselves. I'm studying to be a petroleum engineer and I would like a girl in my field of work.
Phantom888 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 (edited) A lot could be said about a man with "a good job". Chances are he has good work ethics, is educated, makes decent money, has stability, has important responsibilities in his workplace, has some leadership abilities, is capable of problem solving to a certain extent, and generally can work/communicate with others. What's not to like about all these traits? How is this not an important requirement? Unless you are a teenager, I think ALL women should require this in a potential partner. It's a basic requirement that weeds out all the lame dudes. You don't have to be a gold-digger to require your man to have a good job. Yes you can argue that a good decent heart can surpass all these requirements. But guess what, you can have a good decent heart AND a good job. Why settle for less, unless you think you deserve less.... My woman and I both make 6-figure salaries. She definitely requires her man to have a decent job. Is she a gold-digger? No. She wants a man that is financially stable, smart, educated, charming and hardworking, which are typical traits of men with good jobs. Edited February 11, 2014 by Phantom888 add 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 I have an above average income and I want a man who also has a good income, and finds it important to have one. Not because I want him to support me, I am perfectly capable of doing that myself and plan to do so, but because I cannot be together with someone whose lifestyle is too different from mine. I like quality in my life and I am willing to pay for it. I lived of social welfare when I was young and worked extremely hard to achieve a better life and there is no way I will take a step back because my partner earns considerable less than me. I don't need luxury, as a matter of fact I am modest and simple in many things (don't own a car, my TV is more than 10 years, can enjoy a meal in the pub as much as in a 5 star restaurant - provided the food is good,...) but if I see something that I really like and it is very expensive, I will buy it. Money's got to roll and I would feel deeply unhappy with a partner who has to turn around every penny. The discrepancy would be too big. One could say that I could pay for my partner but that would make me poorer than I am on my own.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 In an ideal world, it's not unreasonable. Problem is that (western) women have the legal power to financially ruin you now, and if you marry one, odds are she will.
Gaeta Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 (edited) General rule, You should be able to offer what you ask back from a partner. If you work as a waitress with a grade 12 and demand to meet a man with a BA, I think she is definitely looking for someone to offer her a better life. If you are a professional and want to meet another professional, I can understand that as well, you want someone able to follow you in your life style and be able to share the cost. I got over all this superficial stuff a long time ago. I am a professional and I used to date only engineers, accountants, lawyers, and the like. Then I ended up going out with a machinist on a couple of dates and this man offered me respect in a way I had never experienced before. He completely changed my way of picking men. What I want is a hard working man that enjoys his work and takes pride in doing it well. What he does, if he has a retirement plan, if he has savings, if he has advancement at his work, I could not care less. ETA: And no, I would not mind being the main bread winner if I am with the right man. Edited February 11, 2014 by Gaeta 2
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