Ansem Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Hey guys, I haven't visited these forums in a while since I've been keen on continuing with healing. Quick story, ex broke up with me about 7 months ago (3 yr rs) and apart from the initial begging I have not been in contact with her. She's sent me text messages from time to time which I don't respond to. Anyway last month I ran into her at the bookstore but I felt that she saw me walking in and pretended not to see me, so I didn't even stop to say hi (minutes later after I leave the store she sends me text saying how she saw me walking by). Couple days ago she sent me a friend request on fb which is just sitting there. I've also received two late night/early morning calls, one from her number and the other restricted. I guess I just wanted to hear some of your thoughts. At times I still miss her and such but the intensity of feelings I once had are definitely fading away.
herself Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 7 months is a good long time for people to reflect and change. If you still have feelings you could reply and take it slow and let HER say where SHE stands, you dont need to bring up relationship or admit to feelings but you can, if your healed enough, see what she has to say. It is a risk as it seems like the belief here is that most times the second chance doesnt last. And if she is only looking for fruendship are you ready for that? So you have some thinking to do still before deciding to respond. You can of course remember the bad things and stay no contact too? Trust your instincts.
cybclimb Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 7 It is a risk as it seems like the belief here is that most times the second chance doesnt last. The verdict is still out whether second chances lasts or not. So far my experience tells it doesn't. I used to date this girl for 4 months in 2011. We went on trips together but I had a feeling she's not that into me as I was with her. Long story short, we broke up and after several months with NC, I bumped into her in an event before christmas. She actually hugged me when she saw me. Anyway we started texting again and even invited me for a post christmas dinner at her house with just me and her. It was torrid and I ended up sleeping at her house. I invited her for a black tie event on NYE and we even spent a night in a Hyatt. I thought our affair had been rekindled, but after a week she refused to answer text or accept my calls. I was completely baffled. we haven't talked to each other to this day and its been more than 2 years. Fortunately I met a girl in January that eventually became my GF so I didn't feel much pain from that. I was just curious why she was hot and cold with me. Like I said , she's really not that into me whether its the first or second time.
xUnknown Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Risky situation. Do you like where you're at now? Can you take the fact that maybe she only wants to be a friend? Sounds like she hates the fact that there is someone (you) that doesn't like her...so she wants to make right with that and be friends....in essence, heal her own guilt. I'd say still go NC...but, YOU must chose to do what is BEST FOR YOU.
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