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Hi everyone!! So I met a very nice guy on OKC. We corresponded for a couple weeks and then we met in person. Things went very well. The following week he took me out for dinner and a movie and he kissed me. He told me he had taken down his profile because he thought we had a very good connection and he thought he could see something developing. For our next date I invited him over to my house and cooked him a nice meal and we fooled around (no sex). We have both agreed to take things slowly and not have sex right away. Anyway, he is extremely affectionate. Texts me good morning every day. Texts me throughout the day and into the early hours of the morning. However, since our last date I have not seen him in 10 days. He had a busy week at work and then we had a snow storm one day but don't you think in a relationship this new he could still find the time to even have coffee just to get together briefly. Do you think there is more to this. He also took the time to buy me a book that I wanted as a surprise and have it shipped to my home. Am I being overly sensitive. I just thought at the beginning of a relationship more effort would be made to stay connected. Thank you!!

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You have no reason to worry yet. Just keep positive until he gives you a real reason to question how he feels. I mean, he took down his dating profile already!! That says a lot. My boyfriend didn't do it until a month or so into dating and I had to ask.

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Yeah you're looking into it too much.

 

You said you haven't seen each other in 10 days, how long has it been since you first met?

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Have you spoken on the phone in the 10 days or just texts?

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You have no reason to worry yet. Just keep positive until he gives you a real reason to question how he feels. I mean, he took down his dating profile already!! That says a lot. My boyfriend didn't do it until a month or so into dating and I had to ask.

 

Okay. Thank you!

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Yeah you're looking into it too much.

 

You said you haven't seen each other in 10 days, how long has it been since you first met?

 

We went out on January 24, 28 and 31st. Haven't seen him since then but he texts me regularly and ordered a gift for me online and we have spoken on the phone 2 or 3 times. I just thought at the beginning of the relationship he would make an effort to see me more. Am I expecting too much?

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Have you spoken on the phone in the 10 days or just texts?

 

Yes, he phoned me 3 times after he left on Friday.

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Taking down your profile doesn't mean anything AT ALL. He can easily put it back up in 2 minutes. What does matter is his actions. He's not making much of an attempt to see you in 10 days. Sounds like he was much more eager before. At least he's still calling though, maybe he's just busy. But you just have to keep watching to see what his ACTIONS show you.

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Do you have any plans to get together again? The 10 days in itself are not a bad sign if he is apologetic about it, says he wants to see you again ASAP, makes concrete plans and does not show any signs of flaking on you.

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So you went on dates 2 weekends in a row, then with no date last weekend? I don't think that's a great sign. Every guy I've ever had a relationship with, even the one I felt was less "into me" than the others, planned a date every single weekend possible from the first date onward.

 

But his other actions have suggested he really likes you - so I'm getting kind of mixed messages with no date over last weekend.

 

I'd give him another week or two and see what happens, and revisit this concern again then.

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