maturityassets Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 I guess what has provoked these thoughts is i had a dream about my first love (nothing romantic or anything like being together, just that she was in it) and its going to be a year since we broke up pretty soon. Since then i'm in a different relationship and its going 10 months solid since we started dating and Its healthier relationship in general. But I was having these thoughts that I was sharing with my best friend and I wanted to see what you guys think (first love referred as R and my current GF is E): "There are times I miss my first love don't get me wrong. R was fun to be with, we acted silly all the time, we were spontaneous, we thought we had a vision of the future together, we got into stupid arguments because we both had too high of expectations of each other and then made up the next day. It was all about the "us" and "we" as if the two of us were a single identity. But with E for me I'm just reminded of how valuable it is to have her by my side. How i appreciate our similar troubles growing up, how we have similar goals within our academic lives, different but equally valid view points on thought provoking matter. Like the emphasis now is two distinct individuals making a strong bond than two individuals somehow being that bond itself if you get what I'm saying" I guess my philosophy on relationships would be: Having rather than 'Being' that bond. What do you guys think? Are we now more complimentary with our new partners than intertwining like we were with our first loves? Is it a part of growing up? Just shooting ideas is all and wondering what you guys think, especially those older and more experience than I am.
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