mammasita Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Wait, chlamydia tests turn around that fast? I could be wrong but don't they usually get sent off to a lab?? It's not a get tested and walk out with the results type of thing.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Relax its just the clap, a couple pills and you'll be fine. She told you about that if it was something worse she would have told you that too. Wait until you see how they take that culture though. LOL HIV transmission is highly unlikely female to male during regular sex. Look up the stats its such a small percentage. Even unprotected sex with an infected partner is a 4 in 10,000 chance. The odds of being struck by lightning in your lifetime is 1 in 3000. Keep it in perspective and dont sweat bullets, like I said its just the clap. Outside of that this girl sounds like a maniac. The ex-boyfriend thing is BS she was probably sleeping with him at the same time as you. Maybe someone else too and got you both he just showed symptoms first. Definitely get a full screen done. Take care of your business. And just remember if your gonna go raw with dirty girls your going to be visiting the clinic again.
pickflicker Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Wait, chlamydia tests turn around that fast? I could be wrong but don't they usually get sent off to a lab?? It's not a get tested and walk out with the results type of thing. Yes. Like a garden-variety blood test or pap smear - have the test, go back next week for the results. Still waiting for an answer on the bad back = no willy raincoat scenario...
KatZee Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Are we sure this girl is being honest with you? How can there be this much drama in a mere month? No one gets an STD test and has the results the next day. It's at least a week. Regardless if she's being honest or if she's a major headcase, I'd walk from this chick. She's legit living in loony town.
mammasita Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Yes. Like a garden-variety blood test or pap smear - have the test, go back next week for the results. Still waiting for an answer on the bad back = no willy raincoat scenario... No she said she was tested "in the morning and immediately found out" when I got tested this morning, I was positive for it THAT is BS - I know its about a week turn around like a pap...been there done that. I'm with KatZee - She's in Looney Tune Town chillin with unicorns and mermaids.
Chocolat Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 No she said she was tested "in the morning and immediately found out" I'm with KatZee - She's in Looney Tune Town chillin with unicorns and mermaids. They both sound a little unstable, imo. Maybe she knew all along she had chlamydia and only just now is telling him. Or maybe she's been wth the ex-bf all along. Or maybe... well, there are so many possibilities. My guess about the bad back and condom thing is that he has a hard time getting an erection (ostensibly due to the back problem) so he believes he could never do so with a condom. 1
FitChick Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Since you refuse to use a condom, be thankful it's only an S-T-D and not a B-A-B-Y.
tlegend Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Relax its just the clap, a couple pills and you'll be fine. She told you about that if it was something worse she would have told you that too. Wait until you see how they take that culture though. LOL HIV transmission is highly unlikely female to male during regular sex. Look up the stats its such a small percentage. Even unprotected sex with an infected partner is a 4 in 10,000 chance. The odds of being struck by lightning in your lifetime is 1 in 3000. Keep it in perspective and dont sweat bullets, like I said its just the clap. "The clap" refers to gonorrhea, not chlamydia. Chlamydia tests are not instant. The earliest result I've ever received from a test for chlamydia was a few days...
Author TF1975 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Since I feel a little ganged up on here, let me state some things for the record: 1) On the condom thing, since that seems to be a big issue of contention. I had a severe back injury several years ago. I'm not talking pulled some muscles in my back when I lifted a chair back injury. I'm talking vertebral compression fractures to EIGHT of my thoracic vertebrae. My ninth thoracic vertebra was crushed, placing severe pressure on my spinal cord and left me with permanent nerve damage. After my surgery where my chest was cracked open to "fix" it, the orthopedic surgeon informed me that he did not know how I was even walking. It was nothing short of a miracle because of the pressure being placed on my spinal cord. Although I have "recovered" to the point where I can do daily normal activities, I still have a great deal of issues with "sensation below my waist." Feet, ankles, knees and yes, Mr. Happy (to be as PG-rated as I can be). Even with a condom, I have issues with performance and often have to take medication. But guess what condoms do? They desensitize. This is why I have, before meeting this new girl (who is apparently out of the picture now...to answer that question), been in a monogamous, nearly 4 year relationship with someone. The use of condoms in that relationship weren't necessary as I am unable to father children (medically-proven fact done by testing) and just as an added layer of protection, ex was on birth control for health reasons. Am I advocating that it's a good idea to not use a condom? Absolutely not. I had not planned on sleeping with the new girl in my life. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, it happens. I was stupid. But not much I can do about it now. 2) I never meant to imply that she knew she had it. I simply get a message telling me that her last boyfriend showed up at her house the night before to tell her that he found out he had chlamydia. As a precaution, she went and got tested the next day. I don't know if she has it or not. I got tested today for that, along with the "full panel" testing (chlamydia, clap, herpes, syphillis, HIV, etc) so I have at least a little peace of mind. I don't obviously know yet myself and was told it would be the end of the week/beginning of next week before I find out for sure. I'll go from there. Obviously, until then, and probably for a long eon afterwards, I'm not going to be doing anything to put myself or anyone else in harm's way...just in case. 3) Did this relationship start off way too intense too quickly? With a day or two to look at it, yeah, it did. We were both in vulnerable states-of-mind. I'd had my heart broken by someone I cared about who I had been with for years and her best friend that she espoused to love married someone else. We met, by chance, and it started out innocently enough. Just two people who were going through a tough time and talked by email or text and then decided to meet. When we met, there were sparks of attraction. I'd like to believe that what we felt was real, but she became extremely possessive, I couldn't seem to do anything to please her and felt as if I was constantly on edge. 4) Looking at the signs, and I do not mean to sound like I am trashing her, because I do not wish to do that, but she was obviously suffering from some sort of emotional issues. When I brought up the comments about the war, I was upset. I'm very anti-war to begin with and I allowed my anxiety to get the best of me. But I do believe she is suffering from some sort of PTSD based on what I have read about it and those who I know who have experienced it or been with someone who has it. I was too close to the situation, however, because I thought if I showed enough compassion and understanding that we could work through it. I'm not qualified to do that. You cant "love" or "care" someone well. 5) After trying to be the voice of reason all day yesterday and trying to reason with her, I've come to the conclusion that this is a toxic situation and it's best to "cut my losses" as I believe someone else put it. I hoped things could work out, but it's obvious that it's beyond repair. And whoever said a few weeks or a month and we're already having these problems that should be a warning is right. I didn't go into this situation with any intention of starting a relationship, but I allowed myself to get caught up in the emotions and didn't use good judgment on standing up for myself. By nature, I try to be a peacemaker. But it seemed like all I ever was doing was trying to keep the peace a lot of the time. I could make an innocuous comment on facebook to a female friend and she would get wildly jealous that I was talking to another woman, even though I had no intentions of cheating on her or wanting to be with anyone else. I'm not that kind of guy. For a plethora of reasons, not the least of which is that I believe in the "one guy, one girl" relationship. Plus, I'm too old to be acting like I'm 18 and dating 5 women at once. To make a long story short (I guess it's too late for that now) things ended badly last night with me being called a liar, a cheater (I still don't know how she jumped to that conclusion) and all sorts of profanities. It's basically made me realize that maybe I'm crazy (I hope not), she's crazy or we both were and that it just wasn't in the cards for this to ever work out in any meaningful or lasting way. I am sorry if I gave anyone the impression that I'm some whack job nutso in the things I said. If you've ever had to wait for hours for someone to talk to you because "we need to talk" and then don't even get the "talk", you get a text message instead, I don't think it's fair to say many people wouldn't freak out a bit themselves when they really wanted things to work out between them and the other person. I do really care about her. I want nothing but the best for her and I hope she can find some inner peace because there was a lot of torture in that woman's soul. I simply believed (in error, it appears) that I could be the "nice guy" who restored her faith in the opposite sex and would build a long-term relationship together. I can clearly see that was and isn't going to be. It sucks that it had to get to this point, but lesson learned. Pardon me...LESSONS learned. 1-Not going to put myself in another situation like that and 2-Not going to open up to a bunch of strangers on a message board and get made out to be some lunatic. This is the last time I air my laundry (clean or dirty) in a public forum. But I made my bed, so I got to sleep in it...alone, this time. Even so, y'all have a good night.
Author TF1975 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Let clarify one little thing after reading that: I said that I didn't have any intention of sleeping with the "new girl" in my life. What I meant to say was that I did not have any intention of sleeping with her that quickly. It happened. I can't undo it now. But Unlike a lot of people (believe it or not), I do use some caution and I try to be selective with whom I choose to have a sexual relationship. I'm not the type of guy who jumps into bed on the first, second, third, fourth or even fifth or sixth date as a general rule. I'm not saying I haven't had sex on a first or second date before (BTW: this was our fifth date when it happened), but I am very picky on the choice of sexual partners. I know it's not the most romantic discussion in the world, but I try to be open about my past history when I feel a relationship is getting to that point and encourage my potential partner to do the same. I do believe in communication as an important thing. And yes, I am being very honest here when I say that I cannot have children. I don't mean it's difficult for me to have children. I mean, it's impossible for me to have kids. As in "shooting blanks." Something that has been proven by medical testing on about 8-10 different occasions since 2004. Just wanted to clarify that. Sorry for sounding defensive.
Author TF1975 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 Chocolat-Before I injured my back, I used condoms until I was in a committed marital relationship. No problem. After the injury and six months of physical rehab, I found I could not maintain an erection with a condom, even with the use of Viagra, Levitra or Cialis. It wasn't a situation where I didn't believe I could. I tried and tried and tried. The human nervous system -- when it has had a major injury and motor function has been impaired -- can be a very difficult thing to understand, much less overcome. Try waking up every morning of your life and it take you 10-15 minutes to stand up because either your feet or your legs feel like someone stuck a needle full of lidocaine in your butt cheek. I don't mean to sound like a jackass, but it's a physical fact of my life. And even when I was dating my previous girlfriend, we still had bi-annual STD screens done just as a matter of practice. I should have used better judgment in this case, and if I am lucky enough to walk away from this unscathed or easily treated (assuming she did have what she said the guy had), I will use much better judgment. As in, either just abstaining OR asking that we both have an STD screening before making that decision. At this point, however, I'm pretty much given up hope of ever finding anyone anyways, so what's it matter?
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