True Gent Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 ... And she rang me in tears terrified of him coming to her house to attack her. It's a long story but basically she's seen a side to him that boarders on psychotic. To but it bluntly he put the shytes up her big time and she had to involve the police. Afterwards who does she turn to? Me! Now I must make it clear I know I'm her security blanket and I have no intentions of trying to get her back. I don't want her after how she treat me after 9 years. The thing is because she was so scared and I don't know what he's capable of I let her stay on my sofa for that night and sent her on her way the next morning. I only did it for her safety and because she has no oe else to turn to. I've told her I have no sympathy for her love life she made her bed. I helped her because I do care about her welfare. Her whole life is a mess right now and she's in a pretty bad state. She said to me "you get the last laugh now". I'm not one to gloat and I take no pleasure in seeing her like this. I'm quite surprised how short her time with him was. She moved out in November and they're done already. Was I wrong to help her out for that one night? I feel a bit mixed about it, she was very shaken up I felt I couldn't just leave her to it we spent 9 years together. I don't know if I should feel stupid or what?
organizedchaos Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I wouldn't beat myself up over this. You're human, you helped someone in need of help. As long as you're emotionally ok, then no harm done. But now she needs to handle things on her own. It's not your job to continue to be involved. 3
sly_fly1 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 no, you arnt wrong, deep down this girl loves you, but she thought she would be better with someone else, im not sure if deep down you love her, but i let my ex come back after he rebound beat her up, i havent forgiven her, but i am willing to give it another chance, if you think both of you are mature enough to give it a second shot and forget about the past, than its possible to work, but if your gonna just be her security blanket, screw that, i was the security blanket, n now im back with her, and i wish i woulda had a bit more balls before so i wouldnt have made it so easy, either make her prove her mistake, or kick her to the curb 2
Author True Gent Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 I wouldn't beat myself up over this. You're human, you helped someone in need of help. As long as you're emotionally ok, then no harm done. But now she needs to handle things on her own. It's not your job to continue to be involved. Emotionally I'm fine. I'm actually impressed with myself on that front. I do feel like I've fallen out of love now. I do care for her deeply, but seeing her didn't bring up any desires in me I'm pleased to say. I do think she's wrecked what I felt for her and she's off the pedestal.
Purepony Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 What you did qas admiral just make sure they are done because you dont want this guy knowing where you live 1
mutualove Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Did she care about your welfare when she threw away nine years?Do you really want to be her second choice?A plan B? What she goes through isn't your problem anymore not even a bit.After all that's what she chose in the end wasn't it? 1
Author True Gent Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 no, you arnt wrong, deep down this girl loves you, but she thought she would be better with someone else, im not sure if deep down you love her, but i let my ex come back after he rebound beat her up, i havent forgiven her, but i am willing to give it another chance, if you think both of you are mature enough to give it a second shot and forget about the past, than its possible to work, but if your gonna just be her security blanket, screw that, i was the security blanket, n now im back with her, and i wish i woulda had a bit more balls before so i wouldnt have made it so easy, either make her prove her mistake, or kick her to the curb Yeah I think deep down she does love me. However at this point in time I have no interest in trying again. Maybe if a good few months pass and she really wants me I may consider a few dates, but right now I'm not feeling it. I'm determined not to be her doormat though. I think I was ok with this one off given the circumstances you're right.
Author True Gent Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 What you did qas admiral just make sure they are done because you dont want this guy knowing where you live Thank you I've moved into my own new place this week, he doesn't know where I live. Going off what she's said there is no going back with him. He has really freaked her out.
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