Merenwen Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 So, this is my first post on LS and i'm juist gonna tell my BU story. English is not my first language so please bear with me. It's a long story Me and my ex fb were in a relationship for 2.5 years. We met through a mutual friend. That friend was my 'best friend' at the time. My ex and she met through a online (maffia) game. He fell for her, but she was just playing with him as she already had a boyfriend (for About 3/4 years) she did this with several boys so... She introduced me to him at Skype (he lives 1 hour away from us). He was kinda mean so I didn't like him. Anyway they met once and they kissed (his first). She then ignored him, he became desperate (sent her roses) etc. This happened in november/december 2010. Then in februari 2011 we started talking. We actually got alone ok, but at times we would 'fight' about stupid stuff. In may 2011 he confessed that he likes me and (I liked him too) we agreed to meet. We ended up haring a relationship. So fast forward, in oktober 2013 we had a fight over the phone. He pushes al my buttons (and I pushed all his). So I broke up with him (as he had threathen to break up). He stopped talking to me but I wanted to at least talk. He only wanted to meet 4 days later and only at the time/place he wanted to meet. So I agreed and when I arrived he had already packed all my stuff and told me he wanted a 1 month break. We had plans to go to a hotel and even worse both our birthdays were in that month, but he needed time to 'Find himself back'. He also told me that I had changed him in a bad way (at home they agreed with him wtf)band that I needed to change. I agreed but I was devestated. He brought me and my stuff home and promised me we would continue the relationship after the month. So I didn't really give him the time at first (messaging him) than I left him alone for 10 days. Than his birthday arrived and I went to his home (1.5 hour one way with public transportation) just to deliver a card and giftcard to his mailbox (not wanted him to see me as he had told me he didn't want to see me for another 2 weeks). He woke up 4/5 Hours later and called me, he suddenly wanted to see me. So I went. 2,days later it was my birthday but he didn't come as the weather was stormy (I hated it). After that we continued the relationship. At the end of december I felt like it was good again. But than at newyears eve he had to work (nightshifts) and i got all emotional at him through messaging (and him calling) because he only wanted to come and see me january 2th. (After his shift so he would sleep till 1 and I had t work from 5-10). It was wrong for me to do that but I was feeling all emotional. So I apolegized an hour later. He wouldn't respond anymore and ignore me the day after too. When he answered my call he wanted to meet me at my home (parents) 2 days after the call). A few Hours before we would meet he texted me he would break up with me. He was brought by his parents (appertly I didn't see them so..) and he came to "talk". But basicly he just wanted to collect his stuff and leave as vast as possible... He cried and told me he couldn't live with me and my mood-swings anymore. He found me possessive and felt like I was deciding hoe he had to live his life too. I 'begged' a little but he had already made up his mind. So he told me stupid stuff like 'I hope we can be friends in the future' and 'I Will keep the photos and our ring (friendship ring don't know what the translation is...) in a safe place' and maybe in the far future we can be together' ... And he Said sorry over and over again... After 30-40 minutes he left, I asked him if we would text again and he told me we wouldn't for Some time. So this was in the first week of january and I haven't heard from him for 5/6 weeks. He changed his profile and relationship status (to single) on Facebook and I haven't heard from him or his family after that day. I deleted his family/friends from Facebook as they never even contacted me to at least idk have some closure... he also did nothing to say goodbye to my parents... So I haven't heard from him ever since. I haven't contacted him either, but I just can't go full NC. He was my first everything and it's just too hard to delete him from my phone/Facebook. If he tries to contact me I intend to not answered him though... Anyway so it's been a month and I feel better, but still very sad/dissapointed at times. I have been Reading stories on LS and it had helped me so thank you for that. It still sucks though... I'm starting to think he has never really loved me (he said that after the first year he felt less and less for me) and it really sucks... sorry for the long story I am 21 and he is 22 years old.
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