Nanners Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 A couple weeks ago my friend introduce me to a girl that has a big crush on me. In the two weeks I have known her we have talked non stop via text messages. A few days ago I callled her to set up our first date to which she happily accepted. The day after I asked her out and she told me that she was nervous about the date. I told her that I didn't want her to do something she wasn't comfortable with. After I told her that she pitched the idea of going on a double date with mutual friends. Fine by me. The day of the double date while getting ready my friend gets sick and couldn't make the double date. I told her about it and she seemed really sad about it so I asked if she was comfortable enough to meet me at a restraunt for lunch. She tells me shes with her friend, the gf of my friend that got sick. I told her it was fine and that maybe we could see each other in a couple weeks. Can anyone make sense of this for me? Im kind of sad right now sitting in my date cloths. --update-- While typing this she tells me that she and her friend were about to go to the place the double date was suppose to happen. All that did was add salt to my wound.
mammasita Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 How old is she? So, she's too scared to be alone with you? Weird.
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 If I was to give her the benefit of the doubt, I'd say she was not thinking clearly. Pretty rude to even mention that she was going to that exact place. It could be that she was really, really nervous about meeting you one on one. The depth of the crush probably intensifies it. It was nice of her to drop in on her friend, but..... Yea, process with caution on this one, if at all.
HappyLove Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 She sounds immature, weird, and rude. I'd certainly not ask her out again.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Wow, she's quite...strange. She doesn't seem very interested, and she clearly has no sense of how her lack of sensitivity makes other people feel. Her actually telling you that she's going to the same date place is rude. Her friend's date couldn't make it, so she went with her instead of you - there's something very off with this situation. I don't think I'd try to meet her again.
Author Nanners Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) Thanks everyone. Shes 19 almost 20. Just an update for everyone I got annoyed by her saying sorry over and over again so I flat out asked her why she wasn't comfortable with seeing me. Her response shocked me. Apparently one of my exs rumours about me, something about I how I stalked her for months after the breakup which is not true I have been in no contact with my ex since she broke up with me over 3 months ago, made it to her while we were talking. She says she really likes me but for the first date she wants to play it safe by having friends there. It sucks to think my ex has ruined another aspect of my life As for me and this girl I don't know what to do. I like her but I know we cant do the double date thing for at least 2 weeks. Just all around sucky day. Edited February 9, 2014 by Nanners
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks everyone. Shes 19 almost 20. Just an update for everyone I got annoyed by her saying sorry over and over again so I flat out asked her why she wasn't comfortable with seeing me. Her response shocked me. Apparently one of my exs rumours about me, something about I how I stalked her for months after the breakup which is not true I have been in no contact with my ex since she broke up with me over 3 months ago, made it to her while we were talking. She says she really likes me but for the first date she wants to play it safe by having friends there. It sucks to think my ex has ruined another aspect of my life As for me and this girl I don't know what to do. I like her but I know we cant do the double date thing for at least 2 weeks. Just all around sucky day. What in the fresh heck? Is your ex normally so...off-balance?
Gaeta Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I don't see how the double dating will keep her 'safe' from anything. And if she wants someone with her why not have her friend join the both of you, who says it has to be 'double dating'. It just seem so immature, it starts with this then god knows what else she'll come up with. She is an adult, she doesn't need anyone to be holding her hand on a date. She can present herself in a public place and enjoy a meal with you on her own. if not............sigh, then move to next.
Author Nanners Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 What in the fresh heck? Is your ex normally so...off-balance? Yeah she is. The first couple months of the breakup if I would run into her in public she would give me mean looks even though I would smile at her. A few weeks ago I ran into my ex and to my surprise she was being friendly to me but I cut her conversastion short. She even has the guts to show up to my work every now and then to flirt with the weight lifters, I work in a gym. And now since I starting to talk to this girl my ex went back to either advoiding me or give me mean looks. Which is akward when she does this at my place of work. Here's what im guess is happening. My ex is starting to have feelings for me, the second she hears im talking to a new girl she decides to stir the pot by spreading rumours about me.
HappyLove Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks everyone. Shes 19 almost 20. Just an update for everyone I got annoyed by her saying sorry over and over again so I flat out asked her why she wasn't comfortable with seeing me. Her response shocked me. Apparently one of my exs rumours about me, something about I how I stalked her for months after the breakup which is not true I have been in no contact with my ex since she broke up with me over 3 months ago, made it to her while we were talking. She says she really likes me but for the first date she wants to play it safe by having friends there. It sucks to think my ex has ruined another aspect of my life As for me and this girl I don't know what to do. I like her but I know we cant do the double date thing for at least 2 weeks. Just all around sucky day. Poor excuse. This says more about her than your ex. This girl had a crush on YOU pursued YOU. Got her wish and is now a flake. So she's playing it safe, ummmm were you going to turn into a stalker the night you took her out alone? She's immature and a waste of time. Move on you'll regret it. 1
Author Nanners Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 Here's an update for everyone. She ended up calling me telling me that she would really like to see me. So I asked her to meet me at a local hang spot. I had my doubts she would show up but to my surprise she actually showed up. We talked to each other for about an hour and had a really good time. When the place closed I walked her to her car and to my surprise she leaned in and gave me a hug and said that she was comfortable with me now. I asked her out to a valentines date at a local restraunt alone and she accepted. She pinky promised we will be alone but im not holding my breath because I've been at this stage with this girl. As I was walking away she called me back and asked if I wanted to go to taco bell with her. I smiled and said sure. While at taco bell we had another good time talking and eating. We were play teasing by nudging each other or playing footsie. After a couple hours one of her friends showed up and ate with us, I know the girl so it wasn't akward for me. After taco bell closed she dropped me off at my car. And I said the usual had a great night thanks for the ride etc. When I got home she text me a message saying she had me all wrong. That I was the nicest guy she has ever met and she now knows the rumours to be un true about me. We talked via text for almost an hour and I decided to end it by telling her I was going to bed. So my day went from happy to sad to extremely happy. Im kind of glad the double date got cancelled. I feel she opened up to me more than what she would of on the double date. Here's to hoping she doesn't flake on me for the valentines date
ChatroomHero Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 So my day went from happy to sad to extremely happy. I think you will be in for many days like this, she sounds very immature. Seriously, does she think if you were a stalker or threat you would be exposed on a first date? I have a feeling you will be posting more about her as she does thinks that frustrate you over and over. Otherwise, good luck!
HappyLove Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 She had to pinky swear that she would be alone with you on the valentines date? Then you go to Taco Bell and her friend just happens to show up? I'd be very insulted if I were you that she thinks you're some creep. And the fact that this chick needs a chaperone everywhere she goes....ummm she's the weirdo. Whatever, at least you had fun.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 She had to pinky swear that she would be alone with you on the valentines date? Then you go to Taco Bell and her friend just happens to show up? I'd be very insulted if I were you that she thinks you're some creep. And the fact that this chick needs a chaperone everywhere she goes....ummm she's the weirdo. Whatever, at least you had fun. This. OP, instead of coming to you and asking about the rumours, she decided to believe the gossip. This is not a good sign. It demonstrates a lack of maturity on her part.
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