Author Owl Posted January 26, 2005 Author Posted January 26, 2005 really sorry ? or perhaps more suitable for this forum... honest MM Where MM=one involved in a relationship outside his marriage. LOL
Scott S Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Originally posted by Owl I'm just curious. In my case, I "knew" the OM that my wife had her emotional affair with...the three of us played online games together quite a bit. She was always wanting the three of us to game together...I still don't quite understand why, and at this point, she's not really sure about what she was thinking back then either. I am responding as the cuckholded spouse. My ex's love interest was the husband of one of her oldest & best friends. She knew both of them going back to her college days. I had met them while we were dating, & up to that point had considered him a friend of mine as well. (Okay, Okay! I know! With friends like these, who needs enemas?! ) At our wedding reception (of all places!) I heard him make an offhand comment to the bride that if he had things to do over again, he would have married her (my ex) instead of his wife, & that if anything happened between us he would be happy to step in. In retrospect, this should have alarmed me more than it did. Perhaps I thought he was just in the joyful spirit of the day. ____________________________________________ If you place a mime under arrest, do you still have to inform him of his right to remain silent?
Author Owl Posted January 27, 2005 Author Posted January 27, 2005 It's really easy for a lot of us who are the "betrayed spouse" to look back on comments made by the OM/OW after the fact, and wonder if there was more to the comment. Or to kick ourselves in the behind for not being more concerned about what they said/did at the time. I guess part of this thread was wondering if the OM/OW has to "compartmentalize" themselves like it seems that the MM/MW do? The MM/MW have to act like nothing is going on when they're home with their spouse. They try to behave as though everything is normal, and act like the whole seperate life with the OM/OW doesn't exist while the BS is around. I guess I've wondered if the OM/OW does the same thing in situations where they are friends with or interact with the BS?
izzybelle Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 They try to behave as though everything is normal, and act like the whole seperate life with the OM/OW doesn't exist while the BS is around. I guess I've wondered if the OM/OW does the same thing in situations where they are friends with or interact with the BS? hadn't really thought about it before but ...yeah....although the one thing that's more possible for the OW and BS than for the BS / WS is that we can, if we want, avoid some (or all) of the contact. for me, the affair with that MM only lasted a little over a month but then took another month to die completely. but, during that time i saw both he and his wife at least twice a week. but there were always enough people around that extensive contact could be limited. i do spend a whole lot more time talking with her now than i did then!
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