initforreal Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I have been with my bf for just over a month now. We are both 38. What do I get him for Valentines Day? Right now I have a hotel room reserved with comedy club tickets before hand. Is this ok or too soon? We have slept together already. What else can I gt him? I told him this morning when he left that I have a surprise for next Friday on Valentines Day. He said "oh is that next Friday?". I hope I didn't make it seem like he has to get me something. :/
HappyLove Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Seems like you went all out after just one month. Some men can be weird about a woman spending so much in such a short time. I probably would have just let him get me something. If I got him something it would be something very simple like a nice card or something small. 1
organizedchaos Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I have been with my bf for just over a month now. We are both 38. What do I get him for Valentines Day? Right now I have a hotel room reserved with comedy club tickets before hand. Is this ok or too soon? We have slept together already. What else can I gt him? I told him this morning when he left that I have a surprise for next Friday on Valentines Day. He said "oh is that next Friday?". I hope I didn't make it seem like he has to get me something. :/ Too much too soon. Why are you making all the plans? A nice watch would have been sufficient at this point. 1
sir Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Personally I don't think it's 'too much' for a first Valentines as it seems like a nice relaxed evening, comedy club tickets are a great gift and a hotel room is always a nice change of scenery. Although maybe you could have talked about it with him and booked the hotel together, and due to him not knowing he could equally have plans to take you to a nice restaurant at the same time as the comedy show! Me and my GF always plan the basics (Restaurant/hotel) together for Valentines.
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Too much too soon. Why are you making all the plans? A nice watch would have been sufficient at this point. What is considered a 'nice' watch and how much do they run? For someone you've been on five dates with? Isn't that still a little over the top? Just curious. 4
KathyM Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Too much too soon. It could feel like pressure to him. And I also agree with the posters who are saying that it's always a good idea to coordinate plans with your partner so that both don't plan conflicting things. What if he made reservations for the two of you that day? Many Valentine's Day reservations require a credit card upfront to book it, and he would be out that money if you sprung other plans on him on Valentine's Day. Needs to be coordinated IMO, and toned down if it's not too late. Too early for very expensive gifts also.
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 If this is in keeping with your other date expenditures & overall lifestyle it's fine. With the drink minimums at most comedy clubs the hotel room is smarter than driving & adds a little something to Valentine's Day. Given the cost, I don't think you need to do anything else, except maybe a card.
KatZee Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Yeah, I agree with it being a little too much. You've already gone above and beyond with what you have done. You don't need to buy him anything else. I do agree it should have been coordinated together, or you should have sat back and watched what he might have done for you and given him a card or something. I also cringed at the: "Oh, is that next Friday?" response he gave you. Doesn't seem like he was about to put forth any effort for Valentine's Day. 4
organizedchaos Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 What is considered a 'nice' watch and how much do they run? For someone you've been on five dates with? Isn't that still a little over the top? Just curious. You can get a Fossil watch for under $100. Doesn't have to cost several hundred dollars.
Noproblem Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 don't treat him all that special It makes you look so eager and thirsty I know you already slept together, but still... You are not sure that he is in the relationship for real Bring him a box of chocolate or protein bar That's enough for a one month relationship!
Author initforreal Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks everyone. He's def in the relationship as we talked about not seeing other people. Maybe I will cancel the reservation I have til that day without my card being charged. But now I told him I have a surprise. So, now what?? lol
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Can the surprise just be the comedy show tickets? 1
KathyM Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks everyone. He's def in the relationship as we talked about not seeing other people. Maybe I will cancel the reservation I have til that day without my card being charged. But now I told him I have a surprise. So, now what?? lol Keep the comedy club tickets and cancel the hotel room. Tell him that maybe you should let him in on the plans for Valentine's Day, and then tell him you bought tickets to the comedy club. Get a valentine also, but nothing over-the-top. It's only been one month. Way too early to go overboard with the gifts and sentiment. 1
newmoon Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 no wonder men are afraid of women. that is wayyyy too much after just 1 month. heck, that is more appropriate for 1 year. he'd probably be uber-happy with you making dinner and wearing nothing but an apron. you don't have to do much to make your guy happy. and don't kid yourself. bringing it up to him 1 week+ in advance was your way of giving him notice he better get you something. total ploy, transparent.
Tayken Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 The obvious has been revealed...they asked a group of men what they want for Valentine's day? He is what they found: 46% said sex...Nice Sex can be had anywhere , anytime...the emphasis is on the quality
kaylan Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Lord, a girl who puts in this much effort for a man on V-day? There is a god. OP, youve done enough already, and I wish youd teach a class at your local community college so more women knew that V-day is not just about them. And personally, sex is not enough on special occasions for me. Guys also like to know that their gal put thought into doing something nice for them. Sex can be had at anytime.
soccerrprp Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 I have been with my bf for just over a month now. We are both 38. What do I get him for Valentines Day? Right now I have a hotel room reserved with comedy club tickets before hand. Is this ok or too soon? We have slept together already. What else can I gt him? I told him this morning when he left that I have a surprise for next Friday on Valentines Day. He said "oh is that next Friday?". I hope I didn't make it seem like he has to get me something. :/ Well telling him that you got him something makes him obligated now. I think you've done enough! Phew! I hope my gf has something for me.
SunnySide0418 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Thanks everyone. He's def in the relationship as we talked about not seeing other people. Maybe I will cancel the reservation I have til that day without my card being charged. But now I told him I have a surprise. So, now what?? lol He's the man who should be treating you to all this and making a fuss over you on Valentine's day. I think it's way way too much both the room and even the tickets. Why did you feel the need to take charge like that? V day is more for the woman and I would have waited to see what he did for you on that day. That would have been very telling as to how he feels about you. 1
Author initforreal Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 Ugh...can you tell this is my first Valentines Day with a new guy in years? lol I was with my ex for 18 years, so this is all new to me. I didn't mean to make him feel obligated to buy me something. That was not my intentions at all. I was just excited. I feel like a teenager with this guy. haha
abby_tx Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Who wears watches these days? That's a weird gift request. 1
Els Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 REALLY too much too soon. It's only been one month. I'd say the same if the genders were reversed. A much smaller gift would have been better IMO.
HokeyReligions Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Ugh...can you tell this is my first Valentines Day with a new guy in years? lol I was with my ex for 18 years, so this is all new to me. I didn't mean to make him feel obligated to buy me something. That was not my intentions at all. I was just excited. I feel like a teenager with this guy. haha THIS. This is your gift. Treat him to the comedy club since you are sharing it with him and tell him you feel like an uncertain teennager and that you hope its not too much or that you put pressure on him. Then sit back and relax and laugh. If he's a good guy he wont over think it and will have a great time laughing with you and feeling flattered. 1
organizedchaos Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Who wears watches these days? That's a weird gift request. Men wear watches. Perhaps boys don't. 1
KatZee Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Who wears watches these days? That's a weird gift request. I wear watches every day. So does the guy I'm seeing. I don't like having to whip my phone out for every. single. thing. in life. 2
TheBlingRing14 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Too much too soon. Why are you making all the plans? A nice watch would have been sufficient at this point. See, maybe I am weird, but I think the opposite. To me, a watch is a long-term gift, something you give to someone you've been with for a while or plan to be with a while. These gifts are things that the couple will share together, and it's a one or two day thing. I personally don't find it to be too much, too soon. Comedy club tickets are a pretty basic, casual date night activity. And, I think a hotel is fine. Like someone else said, yes you can have sex anywhere, but sometimes a change of scenery is enjoyable. As long as it isn't the Grand Presidential Suite with strawberries and champagne and rose petals....I think it is fine. If a guy did the same for me, I wouldn't think it was "too much" or somehow made the relationship too serious or anything like that. 2
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