Ex looking for reasons to contact me?

[spiritofjosh]

We didn't date very long but while we did it was incredible. It was obvious from the start we fell for each other instantly. Unfortunately we moved a little too quick before getting to know each other fully, I got paranoid a little too much about what she was doing when I shouldn't have. After giving me a couple "talks" about how she'd never hurt me, she got tired of feeling like she couldn't be trusted that early into a relationship and ended it.

 

We've been broken up for three months now. I obviously still care for her and miss her, but it's not in a state of depression. I've talked to other girls, none have really worked out, etc. A few weeks ago she randomly messaged me on facebook, said some apologetic stuff, not about our break up or us, but saying she was sorry for being rude the last time we spoke, even though she wasn't rude at all really. And that she hopes everything is good. I couldn't help thinking it was just an excuse to contact me because the last time we spoke it had been 3 weeks prior and the message she wrote totally could have been avoided. Like, I just saw no point to it really. I didn't really know what to say so I just said "no hard feelings, hope all is well with you." I went on how I had been but her message came just in time for when I was finally not thinking about her. There is no contact besides this, we aren't facebook or instagram "friends" because I had deleted her from both.

 

Last night is why I'm even posting here. While we dated I bought tickets to see this band I had liked for a very long time and had never seen before, a band she has never heard of prior to me mentioning I bought tickets. I showed her them and she said they were pretty good, wasn't overly excited. I hadn't been thinking about her much lately but last night while I was at the show with friends (it being an hour away from our area) I see her walk in, completely surprising me, because after all she wasn't exactly thrilled about them. It was an actual concert so the show was big and there were a lot of people. She texted me asking if I was there, of course I was so I said yes. She texted me a few more times about random things not really relevant to anything. While the band I came to see started their set, she texted me asking if I was on the floor, I said I was at the stage and 5 minutes later she taps me on the shoulder, all smiles and stayed there the entire show. Everytime I'd turn around I'd see her looking for anybody about to fall/crush her and immediately look back at me. Often out of the corner of my eye I'd turn and see her staring at me, in a complete different direction than anything she could be watching on stage. I find it no coincidence she asked where I was and wiggled through tons of fans jumping around to "end up" directly behind me towards the left side of the stage. I wasn't very friendly to her though and didn't say anything, just acknowledged she was there basically.

 

Today I just felt the urge to text her and say it was nice seeing her as a more a joke because it was obvious I wasn't being friendly. She said I didn't seem to happy to see her and claimed her ending up behind me was an "accident" which I refuse to believe. But she was nice and asked if I still had her movies and if she could meet with me to get them back. I said I was rarely home and always busy, and she just said that if I remembered, to let her know when I was around. But when we had broken up, she mentioned me just leaving her movies out for her to pick up at her leisure, not get them from me directly like she mentioned now. I kept the conversation going more by asking how she was. She started bringing up stuff to ask me so specific I was surprised she even remembered. Specifically as in she asked if I ever finished the "Fender Jazzmaster/Jaguar" project I was working on when she knows nothing about guitars. And if I sold my Volkswagen Jetta yet that I had as a project. The way I spoke to her was sort of cocky, like I was completely fine with my life (for the most part I am, excluding her popping up at the worst times). I said I was great and hopefully getting a new, higher paying job, and all she had to say was she was "ok" and lost her old job and works with her mom for now.

 

That was about it but I feel like I handled it well, that I didn't come off as desperate to speak with her, not even the slightest other than asking how she was. Thing is, I want her back in my life. I literally haven't been happier that I can remember than while we were dating. And from what people I know say, she's still single and hasn't started dating anybody else yet. She did go to the show with some kid that I actually know from mutual friends. Being and ex I kept an eye on him and being I do know him, he's not exactly a ladies man and very timid and dorky, so I noticed he kept making sure he was behind her the entire time she was behind me. I could tell he wanted to try and get close but from what I can tell, she showed no interest towards him, especially knowing how she acted towards me in past situations her and I had been in, where she would almost cling to me, even before we were dating and just in the "talking" phase. Of course, she may of also been holding back because I was clearly in eyesight?

 

Any thoughts on if she seems to be looking for ways to contact me or if she's just showing signs of wanting to be civil? I need some advice on what I should do next; wait for her to contact me again? Or wait a couple days and say hello again..maybe actually give her her movies back? In terms of our initial breakup I feel like from our breakup and unasked views from mutual friends that she really isn't somebody who has any past of being dishonest or disloyal. Unfortunately I should of realized this before we broke up but I cannot change that, so I'm hoping we can start over basically. I apologize for the length, but as always, I appreciate all feedback and anybody who looks this over.

[Discover]

In my oppinion, she is just trying to see if you got over her or not. I experienced the "looks, sad eyes, all that you described with the questions" but believe me Do Not contact her, if she does..fine but don't do it, it has been three months don't ruin them because she felt lonely for the first time she ever left you..