Iskaral Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I'm new and i'm looking for some help so thank you for reading my post. A few months ago I met a girl in the gym and we both liked each other. She asked for my number and we met up in the gym and chatted over the phone. We planned to go on a date but she was very busy and got sick for a few weeks. So we just kept talking but nothing more. After some time I asked her again and all of a sudden she didn't like me anymore and said she dated a other guy just for sex. In the time we talked I had fallen in love with her so you can imagine how that felt. Its now 2/3 months later and i'm still in love with her. I try to keep my feelings in check but to be honest all I want to do is see her, talk to her, text her. The best I could do is not see and think about her. The problem however is that she goes to the same school and gym as me. So I know I can run into her at every moment of everyday and I scares me to death, all day i'm anxious of running into her. So far I luckily only ran into her ones in the gym but she was so nice and we laughed and of course afterwards I felt horrible. I have no idea what to do anymore, I don't want to feel this way about her anymore but I can't loose it. She was the first girl I ever loved and ever told I loved. Not sure how to handle this, its killing me inside. Everyday I feel more like a complete loser.
Discover Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Same here mate,we were together for 2 years and she was my first love. We are in the same class,you can imagine. I guess you should try to distract yourself from thinking about her and in the gym be nice,say hello but don't get into long conversations that afterwards will make you feel horrible. Don't put this girl on a piadestal, I mean, you haven't even been with her! Try to imagine yourself with someone else, because believe me there are a lot of girls who are more suitable for you. Because after the first girl I tought I loved I found my ex girlfriend,and back then I really tought there was nothing better..Now I am really hurting, but mainly because I know that I will and She will find someone better for one another. Keep yourself away,distance a bit from her. That's my oppinion,however.Good luck! 1
Author Iskaral Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Thank you my friend, I do think you are right and I hope your hurting will fade away and you will find someone better for yourself. I'm trying to see her as less as possible but when I run into her into the gym is hard not to talk to her. Even worse is seeing her flirting with other guys, i'm not a jealous guy it just hurts a lot. I wish I could stop feeling about her this way, I guess it will just take much more time then I hope it would.
Discover Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Thank you my friend, I do think you are right and I hope your hurting will fade away and you will find someone better for yourself. I'm trying to see her as less as possible but when I run into her into the gym is hard not to talk to her. Even worse is seeing her flirting with other guys, i'm not a jealous guy it just hurts a lot. I wish I could stop feeling about her this way, I guess it will just take much more time then I hope it would. Same here dude, just force yourself to keep a certain distance. For the flirting,well I still feel sick from time to time when I think about her being with someone else in an intimate way as we were but such is life. Focus on the things important for yourself and I don't mean her! 1
Author Iskaral Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 I will try it next time, just say hey to her and leave it at that. I just hope I won't drive myself mad when she is talking to other guys and having fun and stuff. Thank you for the advise, i'm sorry you are going through the same thing.
Discover Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I will try it next time, just say hey to her and leave it at that. I just hope I won't drive myself mad when she is talking to other guys and having fun and stuff. Thank you for the advise, i'm sorry you are going through the same thing. That's good! But when/if you go mad try to confront it, ask yourself why are you actually mad! 1
Frank2thepoint Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 After some time I asked her again and all of a sudden she didn't like me anymore and said she dated a other guy just for sex. In the time we talked I had fallen in love with her so you can imagine how that felt. By the progression of your conversation, did you "fall in love" (aka, get infatuated) with her just because she has no-strings attached sex?
Author Iskaral Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 By the progression of your conversation, did you "fall in love" (aka, get infatuated) with her just because she has no-strings attached sex? No at all, I actually prefer more conventional girls I guess. She was a virgin when we met and I actually liked that she said she first wanted a boyfriend for a time before doing anything.
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