pickflicker Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Which won't happen. Zahara left that part out to save the harshness of the reality. I won't do as such. One more thing to add: OP, you think so little of yourself that you'd rather she pitied you and felt bad for you? 1
Author signal Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 Don't pity myself. The thought crossed my mind as I keep thinking about her. It's a tough, ****ty place to be in. If only she ended it years ago instead of holding on to me for 8 years
Zahara Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Don't pity myself. The thought crossed my mind as I keep thinking about her. It's a tough, ****ty place to be in. If only she ended it years ago instead of holding on to me for 8 years You bear that responsibility. You caught her stepping out once. You went back to her. She did it again. You went back again. Then she did it for the third time. Now you want to send flowers. This is all you. 4
Chi townD Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Don't pity myself. The thought crossed my mind as I keep thinking about her. It's a tough, ****ty place to be in. If only she ended it years ago instead of holding on to me for 8 years Then, don't waste another day on her. Remember, she's placing more of a value on this other dude than you. Therefore, it's time for you to move on.
pickflicker Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Don't pity myself. The thought crossed my mind as I keep thinking about her. It's a tough, ****ty place to be in. If only she ended it years ago instead of holding on to me for 8 years Yes, you do. If you didn't, you would not be entertaining these thoughts. And you want her to pity you. Pity is negative and not something we want people to feel for us.
hurts2death Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 signal go hard NC. work on you, get a better fitness routine.better diet. improve career/. if she asks where r you. leave a not you went to mars with nasa. trust me somewhere along doing this to you you will start loving you again and feel pity of her.
Author signal Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 Me and my gf been together for 8 years. Last month she mentioned she had been introduced to a new guy by her cousin. I went NC the next day. We left on good terms. 2 weeks ago she was messaging my sister asking how I was. I need full closure on this I need her to explain what she wants and finally put this to end and dump me to my face I will Contact her, if she's happy with the guy then fine. I just need closure
herself Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Me and my gf been together for 8 years. Last month she mentioned she had been introduced to a new guy by her cousin. I went NC the next day. We left on good terms. 2 weeks ago she was messaging my sister asking how I was. I need full closure on this I need her to explain what she wants and finally put this to end and dump me to my face I will Contact her, if she's happy with the guy then fine. I just need closure No you dont want closure, u want her back? You must because what more do you need to know? What she wants? After 8 yrs she couldnt be bothered to contact you in 34 days, and she met a new guy? Common buddy, open your eyes. She asked about u indirectly because she wanted to know you were crying & missing her. If she really cared she would have reached out directly. She was looking for the door for a long time, met a guy & moved on. End of story. SHE should contact YOU, she left, she chases, end of story. Do NOT break contact & let her ego get stroked by you needing her. 34 days....nothing from her? Screw her.
Author signal Posted February 15, 2014 Author Posted February 15, 2014 She gave me 1 missed call on day 6 and a text with a sad face. Day 7 a text saying are we not going to talk So attempts were made
Zahara Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Attempts were made to be friendly with you. Dumpers need to make nice with the dumpee because that allows them to be the good guy again. It alleviates their guilt. It's not your responsibility to win her back. It's hers. She needs to win your trust and love back. It's not your job to keep asking her if she wants you back. 2
Haydn Posted February 15, 2014 Posted February 15, 2014 Keep quiet 34 days is not very long. Silence my friend. Attempts were made to be friendly with you. Dumpers need to make nice with the dumpee because that allows them to be the good guy again. It alleviates their guilt. It's not your responsibility to win her back. It's hers. She needs to win your trust and love back. It's not your job to keep asking her if she wants you back.
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