alexjames Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) I was only with my ex for a few months, and she left me about 4 months ago, but I still think of her everyday, miss her like mad and get really upset at the thought of not being with her anymore. I have never seen a more beautiful, sweet girl in all my life, she really was the most gorgeous girl inside and out you could possibly meet. Last night, me and a friend went out on the town. We live in a fairly small town, and there are only a couple of bars/clubs here. My ex loved going to the bars/clubs here and would go with her friends at any opportunity she had, and so do I! So I knew that one day soon (I can't believe it hadn't before last night) I'd end up seeing her. I did see her, a lot last night! She was in the club, and it seemed that where-ever I was, she would come and be right near me. (She constantly had a group of guys trying it on with her, but she has a boyfriend now, which kills me to say, so she was knocking these other guys back all night). At one point, my mate was with some girl, leaving me on my own, and my ex decided to come up to me. She cuddled me loads, and kept saying that she is sorry for hurting me, and no hard feelings etc. She then said good luck for the future and gave me another cuddle and kiss on the cheek and walked off. This hurt so bad though. Being close to her again, but so far at the same time, as she was being so sweet and nice to me, but I'd rather she didn't come near me. I sent her a message on facebook (the first time I've done that since the split) saying how her being so close didn't help and that although it was nice of her to say those things, but it has made me feel really bad again etc. I just can't get her from my mind, and I just feel like i'm back to square one. The last thing I wanted to do was to speak to the girl that I like so much, but know there is no way back with her, the thought of her and a new guy makes me sick. How do you let go of people and get on with your own life? I have other things troubling me (friends, health, my career) but all my thoughts and anxieties are taken up by this one girl....it's hell! Edited February 9, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
wistfulgirl Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Don't really have any advice to give, but completely sympathise and can relate to what you've said so you're not alone. It will get easier, and you won't feel this way forever. At least it has been left on a good note and she doesn't have resentment or bad feeling towards you so can remember what you had together with fond memories. But know that can also be harder as you can't "hate" her and use this to fuel moving on. Thoughts are with you xxx
Author alexjames Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Don't really have any advice to give, but completely sympathise and can relate to what you've said so you're not alone. It will get easier, and you won't feel this way forever. At least it has been left on a good note and she doesn't have resentment or bad feeling towards you so can remember what you had together with fond memories. But know that can also be harder as you can't "hate" her and use this to fuel moving on. Thoughts are with you xxx That's the problem. We are now talking on facebook, and she is being nice to me, and I really don't want this, but I can't stop replying, but she is also talking about her boyfriend at times, which cuts me up. I just feel like no other girl will be interested in me (I'm very much below average looking and am quite shy) so I can't see myself with aother girl (I met her through a work mate so I didn't have to get her) so I really cant see me forgetting he anytime soon
mammasita Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Stop talking to her. I know she's done nothing wrong and she's being nice, but for YOUR sanity being FB friends and seeing her happy life with her new boyfriend is not helping you. Block her, stop talking to her.
Tryingtobegrateful Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I can completely empathize, the time period of grieving is much longer than the time we two were actually together So much griefs, I could not feel the happiness anymore I doubt if romance is even worth it
Blizeow Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Stop talking to her. I know she's done nothing wrong and she's being nice, but for YOUR sanity being FB friends and seeing her happy life with her new boyfriend is not helping you. Block her, stop talking to her. Couldn't agree more. Block her, and I would take a break from FB completely. Set a goal for yourself and prove you do not need to go on there period. Even if it is only for a week or so. I made my friend change my password and I set the goal for an entire year and a half!!!! It's been two months and I do not even miss my FB. Even though I had blocked my ex- pics of him still would float around, and it was too much. I set that goal to protect my feelings.
Author alexjames Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 The trouble with the whole deleting facebook thing, is I have recently got a promotion at work, and am now part of the management team, and for the business I need to keep my facebook open so I can advertise and promote on my page. But I have stopped messaging her this morning, and will vow to never message her again, unless I feel I am over her and possibly have some kind of friendship. I deleted her as soon as she left me, but you can still message people on there who aren't friends unfortunately! But I have now done all I can
mammasita Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Add her to your block list.....messaging problem solved.
Blizeow Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Add her to your block list.....messaging problem solved. Exactly. Block her. I know that seems very final, but I promise you will feel WAY better after blocking her.
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