Amaury Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 So after being NC for pretty much 4 months, the last week or two has been really hard because I have been feeling kind've lonely, and even though I dont miss her or want her back I have been missing the memories we shared and her company and she has been on my mind a lot recently more then the second or third month of NC. This morning when I woke up I saw I had a missed call from a number that called me at 6:30am that looked familiar, it looked like my ex's number but I wasn't sure. I have been applying to a lot of jobs lately so maybe it was a job oppurtunity but I didnt want to call unless I was certain it wasnt her, so I called my friend who still has her number from when I used his phone to call her once or twice when we were still dating, and yes it was her who called or at least it was her phone. I feel like maybe this is a greater force testing me to see if I would call her back but I'm not tempted in the slightest I'm just really surprised, I NEVER thought I would see that # again and I dont know what to make of it. Im sure someone is going to say it doesnt matter she is gone worry about yourself blah blah blah blah I already know that lol I just wanted to see what you guys thought of this or if you guys had any thing to say about the situation.
jphcbpa Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 accidental call perhaps. seems rather early in the morning. do not call back
Frank2thepoint Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I feel like maybe this is a greater force testing me to see if I would call her back but I'm not tempted in the slightest I'm just really surprised, I NEVER thought I would see that # again and I dont know what to make of it. Im sure someone is going to say it doesnt matter she is gone worry about yourself blah blah blah blah I already know that lol I just wanted to see what you guys thought of this or if you guys had any thing to say about the situation. This greater force is testing you to see if you are a weakling that will actually care to call her back. You're already losing the test because you are thinking of calling her. You need to move forward, it's progress, it's growth. Since you have been looking for new job opportunities, my suggestion is to save your ex's number and label it as "Ex - Do not answer" or something like that so you know not to pick up.
spiritofjosh Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I know how it feels to be doing ok and all of a sudden the ex pops in your head and you feel like it's back to square one. Even worse when you're doing fine and she pops up and sends you back abruptly. My advice is to not call back. What the above comment says is true, 6:30 am is early to call so it may of been accidental or hell, maybe she had a really rough night drinking and needed a ride. Nothing you want to hear but keep busy. Because if she wants to talk, she'll try again.
organizedchaos Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 What's to say? What to make of what? Why are you overanalyzing what appears to be a simple phone call? Probably a misdial. Exes give breadcrumbs all the time, this isn't news (mine liked several of my photos on Instagram last week after 6 months break up). And it's the farthest from a reconciliation as you can get. So what are you hoping to hear from us?
spiritofjosh Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 What's to say? What to make of what? Why are you overanalyzing what appears to be a simple phone call? Probably a misdial. Exes give breadcrumbs all the time, this isn't news (mine liked several of my photos on Instagram last week after 6 months break up). And it's the farthest from a reconciliation as you can get. So what are you hoping to hear from us? I'm going to agree with organizedchaos again as I did in another thread. You're over analyzing definitely because you didn't even hear what she had to say. If you answered she could of very well had said; "oh s***, wrong number" and that would be it. It would of been best for you to see if she tried calling again, seeing what she wanted then decide if you needed advice. Nobody here really can tell you why she called so early in the morning unfortunately.
Author Amaury Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 This greater force is testing you to see if you are a weakling that will actually care to call her back. You're already losing the test because you are thinking of calling her. You need to move forward, it's progress, it's growth. Since you have been looking for new job opportunities, my suggestion is to save your ex's number and label it as "Ex - Do not answer" or something like that so you know not to pick up. I never said I wanted to call her back and it NEVER crossed my mind, but thanks for the feedback.
Author Amaury Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 What's to say? What to make of what? Why are you overanalyzing what appears to be a simple phone call? Probably a misdial. Exes give breadcrumbs all the time, this isn't news (mine liked several of my photos on Instagram last week after 6 months break up). And it's the farthest from a reconciliation as you can get. So what are you hoping to hear from us? Well since I didnt want to call her I figured I would talk about it here just to get it off my chest maybe someone wouldve offered me something positive, since I thought that's what this site was for.
somethingsomething Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Well since I didnt want to call her I figured I would talk about it here just to get it off my chest maybe someone wouldve offered me something positive, since I thought that's what this site was for. That's what this site is for, for people like me and you to vent. I wish I could be 4 months NC like you are, I'm 3 weeks NC and I feel like I'm losing myself because my thoughts are all filled up with the memories of the relationship. Does your ex have a new significant other now? It seems like you know what to do. I agree with the above poster that maybe seeing if she called again if she really wanted to contact you. I hope you feel better over this situation, we all get thrown a loop sometimes.
Author Amaury Posted February 10, 2014 Author Posted February 10, 2014 That's what this site is for, for people like me and you to vent. I wish I could be 4 months NC like you are, I'm 3 weeks NC and I feel like I'm losing myself because my thoughts are all filled up with the memories of the relationship. Does your ex have a new significant other now? It seems like you know what to do. I agree with the above poster that maybe seeing if she called again if she really wanted to contact you. I hope you feel better over this situation, we all get thrown a loop sometimes. I honestly dont know if she has someone else, I haven't heard anything from her or about her in the last 4 months. However right before I went NC I found out from her herself that she had slept with 2 maybe 3 different guys only a month after we broke up so yea. I was hurt and surprised not from jealous but because I thought she was better then that and I felt like I never really knew who she really was. Dont worry it seems hard now but remember, you were fine before you knew she even existed and you will be good or even better again but wiser, smarter and stronger trust me. The first weeks are hard but your still going NC and before you know it those weeks turn into months and then years. Hang in there my friend your not alone, I KNOW you will feel better over this situation!
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