Local Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) Im not sure what to do, I met the girl of my dreams almost 8 years ago, from the first time i saw her i had a feeling inside me that i had never felt before. Well when i met her, she was dealing with some pretty serious stuff, the last guy she was with had just died from cancer and month before we met. We started dating, and i fell completely in love with her. I was there for her whenever she was upset, i did everything i could for her, but it went south fast, about 5 months later she left me for one of my friends, (which was the cousin of the guy that died). It literally tore me apart inside when this happened. I loved this girl more than life, and i just couldn't figure out how she could just throw me away like that, especially the way it happened. Well i had a few rough years after that, i could never get her out of my mind. I tried dating again, but none of those girls ever felt right, i ended up with a girl for 3 years, but it always felt wrong. I can probably count on 1 hand the amount of times i even had sex with that girl in the 3 years, it just didnt feel right and i could never get that other girl out of my head. Well about a year ago my ex became single again. We started talking through facebook and text messages, and a few months later we decided to go for a coffee. it went well, and we started hanging out a bit....a few months of doing this went by, and then we were pretty much together every weekend. going out and doing things, having fun, and at night just hanging out watching tv or movies and cuddling. Around christmas time things felt GREAT, she seemed happy, i felt great, then BOOM! just after new years she "wanted to talk" i felt physically sick when those words came across my phone. She came over, had the talk, said she doesnt want the pressure of a relationship, but wants to stay friends. I told her i had to think about that, because its hard as hell to look at the girl you love, and no be allowed to hold her or kiss her. well i decided i would try to be friends. so a few weeks after this all happened, we decided to go spend the day together doing something fun, and it was fun, we both had a Great time, just like we always did, but at the same time it was eating me up inside that i couldnt hug her or kiss her. At the end of the day i dropped her off at home, she kissed me on the cheek and hugged me. i went home, and that night i cried. we had fun that day, but usually after those fun times, she would be in my arms at night, and she wasnt. i didnt hear from her again for 4 days. i decided at that point that i couldnt stay friends with her, it hurt too much, so i wrote her a letter saying every single thing that was on my mind, i told her how much she meant to me, all the things i wanted to do with her, and all the things i would miss about her. the next day she told me that my letter made her cry, and that she loves me. thats the first time she ever told me she loved me. i stayed pretty distant for a week or so, didnt talk much through text, but she said she was going to write a letter back to me. few days later she sent me a text saying that she cant do it, she cant say goodbye to me and there was parts of my letter she agreed with, and parts that she didnt, and wants to stay friends and that we can talk this out. i told her that i need time to think about that. The next day i asked her what those things she agreed with and didnt agree with, and she said she would write me a email and tell me. well i waited 2 days and that email never came, so i asked her why she didnt write it. She got very mad at that text, and now wont even talk to me. i dont get it, why is she so mad and cold, within 3 days of telling me she loved me and cant say goodbye? sorry this was so long......any help would be appreciated Edited February 9, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
TXGuy Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Go no contact. I hate to say it, but things will never work out with her. Stop torturing yourself and walk away. She is just toying with you.
Author Local Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 i want to go nc, its just to hard to let this girl go, i never really let go of her last time, and that was 7 years ago. in my 35 years of being on this planet, this is by far the hardest thing i have ever had to go through.
Radu Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Go into therapy [iC]. This has lasted long enough, she has been taking up space in your head for 7yrs now and you will never be able to move on to other things, you will always be in this pain that you feel right now and she will never be with you. You should have evicted her out of your head when she dumped you 6yrs ago for one of your friends.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 i want to go nc, its just to hard to let this girl go, i never really let go of her last time, and that was 7 years ago. in my 35 years of being on this planet, this is by far the hardest thing i have ever had to go through. If it has been lasting for seven years now, you can't muster the personal strength to let go and move on, then you need professional help.
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