MapleWish Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 So there's this guy in my writing class named Adam, I really liked him but last night when I hung out with him and his roommate, his roomie told me that Adam is a one night stand kind of guy and doesn't let things go further than that. Whether or not the roomie was telling the truth or not I don't know, him and Adam are Australian and the roomie confirmed that Aussies are smartasses. But regardless I was torn between choosing a one night stand with Adam or not, I chose NOT but now I'm wondering how can I just be friends with him? Guess I'm not good at making friends with guys cause usually the guys I know just want sex and when they know they're not getting any from me they stop being my friend. Anyways I got Adam's number and his roomies. I've been textin the roomie, just being friendly but I haven't been texting Adam, I don't know what to say! I mean what do I say to a guy who I used to like so much and now I'm kinda hurt because he only does ONS admittedly i think i lost some respect for him, plus last night when me and his roomie and bunch of other people went out for drinks, Adam wasnt hinting like I was trying to do to with him, I was sitting close to him talking to him etc. how do I convert to just friends? With me it's always been if I act like myself around guys I don't have a crush on, those guys end up liking me. But when I actually like a guy, I let my emotions act up and I don't act like myself, I'm always trying to get them to notice me and notice that I like them. But how can I talk to Adam now, if anything I figured our dynamic could just be a flirty friendship. I had friendships like that with guys, a coworker of mine flirts with me all the time but he's friendly about it like a best friend. I have guy friends from high school that were crushes and they basically friend zoned me or were maybe dating someone else and then I got over them then we became good friends but with Adam I feel different, I feel like its hard to be his friend. Making friends shouldn't be hard but it college it seems like every one already has their own clique and there's no interest In adding friends, idunno
ja123 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Firstly, you need to put some distance between you and Adam (and that includes his roomie), in order to tone your feeling down. Secondly, you need to go out and meet more people (guys included!) Have you ever thought about joining a unisex intramural sports team? Touch/Ultimate Frisbee or something? How can you think of Adam as a friend immediately? Imagine yourself a TomBoy and that Adam is wearing some frilly pink girly underwear .... hahaha I bet if you did that though, then Adam would think you were the coolest cheick and want to date you. Stranger things have happened ... Good luck!
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