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how soon to say i love you?


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hey guys

 

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half months and i was wondering if u could advise me on something...

 

the question is how soon is too soon to say i love you...

 

i know those feelings are present on some level from myself but not sure how he feels,

 

i know he cares about me etc but the only hint of and i love u from him was after we had an arguement... made up and i said 'Sorry for giving u a hard time ... do u hate me?' and he just kissed me and under his breath said 'i love you'.

 

I feel like i may want to say it but i don't want to freak him out ... this may sound weird but if he boldly came out with it i would be a little taken back and probably freak out a little just because of the expectation there is for me to then feel the same thing back.

 

Besides 3 and a half months isn't a lot of time..... anyway what do you think?

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I usually recommend saying it when you truly mean it AND you feel the other person will be comfortable hearing it. A lot of people wait about six months, some wait a year. In your case, I think I would hold off a little while longer. There is certainly the risk of scaring him off some by saying that.

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