Tryingtobegrateful Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) I purposed to meet him for a day as farewell in his hometown. He said it would not be a good idea under the situations ( I have stupidly let him know I still have strong feelings for him), but would be glad to meet for "a few hours" for a coffee Shall I still go? Where the **** does he expect me to spend the night then? In a hotel? Edited February 9, 2014 by Tryingtobegrateful
Allumere Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 He is telling you that nothing will happen and leaving the choice up to you. Coffee is a nice catch-up, thank you and time to say good-bye. Whether you go is your choice but he should not be expected to provide anything for you...you aren't dating and you purposed to him getting together.
Xemyd Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 You broke up, you shouldn't be spending any nights with him. Or any time for that matter.
Author Tryingtobegrateful Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 I guess for me I can never have a closure with the relationship without visiting his hometown We always talked about it when we were still together, how we were going to spend it I know this is not a good relationship, I just hope for a closure, to say goodbye in the place I always dream of
Author Tryingtobegrateful Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Also that date is my birthday, if he declines to let me stay over I will spending it with strangers in a dormitory room...the very thought makes me want to cry
Allumere Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 ....you are still looking to him as a source of happiness....so you want to spend your birthday traveling to a town to see your ex...obviously not just to say goodbye., your are hoping for a really good birthday if you know what I mean. What I see happening is you going for coffee, the whole thing blowing up because of emotions, he doesn't offer a place to stay or he isn't so awe struck that coffee extends to a day together. You are then stuck alone, crying and broken-hearted...man, I'd stay in the dorm
Author Tryingtobegrateful Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 ....you are still looking to him as a source of happiness....so you want to spend your birthday traveling to a town to see your ex...obviously not just to say goodbye., your are hoping for a really good birthday if you know what I mean. What I see happening is you going for coffee, the whole thing blowing up because of emotions, he doesn't offer a place to stay or he isn't so awe struck that coffee extends to a day together. You are then stuck alone, crying and broken-hearted...man, I'd stay in the dorm At first I was thinking to say goodbye and start a new page of life along with my birthday But maybe you are right...that's what I was subconsciously thinking...
Winter blue Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 If I were you I wouldn't even go. Why bother, he broke up with you. A closure of an old failed relationship should come from the inside, not from your ex. You should never expect a conversation with your ex brings you clousure. Agree with another poster that in the back of your mind, you sound like you were expecting something more than just a catch up on the day (and night). He has turned you down nicely (by telling you spending a whole day together isn't a good idea), take it and pick some of your self-respect up, tell him you will not be going, let it be and have a birthday celebration with your friends instead. You will be much happier that way. 1
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