iMissHerSoSoMuch Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) Hey guys my gf broke up with me 6days ago , I can't do anything , I haven't been to school , we go to the same college , I've been trying everything to get her back , I call her everday , I even called her yesterday and I sang her a song ... I'm so so miserable right now . The worst thing is that she left me for another guy please help me , I know I will never get a gf again , she's the one... She dumped me cos I didn't appreciate her when I had her : - she used to come to my house door without telling (I always found this annoying) (I should've appriecated that) - she was always the one to contact first (I shouldve apprecaited that by contacting first) - she would always come to my group in college & sit with me and my friends (I also found this annoying) - she Told me to wait for her to be ready to have sex ( stupidity of me I became angry) - she always uses my picture as her facebook profile pic & update status abt loving me (this extremely annoyed me) I'm so so stupid its like everything she did when I had her annoyed me , now she's GONE , GONE Forever , I regret not loving her , how can I get her back ? I really want her back guys help me. Edited February 9, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 She's gone, there's nothing you can do. Stop calling her, that is extremely annoying. 5
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Hey guys my gf broke up with me 6days ago , I can't do anything , I haven't been to school , we go to the same college , I've been trying everything to get her back , I call her everday , I even called her yesterday and I sang her a song ... I'm so so miserable right now . The worst thing is that she left me for another guy please help me , I know I will never get a gf again , she's the one... She dumped me cos I didn't appreciate her when I had her : - she used to come to my house door without telling (I always found this annoying) (I should've appriecated that) - she was always the one to contact first (I shouldve apprecaited that by contacting first) - she would always come to my group in college & sit with me and my friends (I also found this annoying) - she Told me to wait for her to be ready to have sex ( stupidity of me I became angry) - she always uses my picture as her facebook profile pic & update status abt loving me (this extremely annoyed me) I'm so so stupid its like everything she did when I had her annoyed me , now she's GONE , GONE Forever , I regret not loving her , how can I get her back ? I really want her back guys help me. First, you have to stop the songs lol. Good god, that made me cringe to hear that. You are doing absolutely everything to make sure she stays away. Calling her every day??? Do you know how pathetic that looks to someone else? STOP IT! AND SHE LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER GUY!!! Why would you want to be with her anyways? She obviously didnt care about you enough to stay, so why care about her? She isn't "the one" and you will get a GF again. The dramatics in you are strong currently. You can't "get her back." She has to make that decision to want you back and from the looks of it, she is done and will continue to stay done. All you can do is learn from this and stop contacting her. If, and a VERY strong if, she ever wants to try again, its because she choose to, NOT because of your acoustic sessions to her lol. And go to class. A relationship ending is no reason to not further your education. That's why you pay for it right?
Author iMissHerSoSoMuch Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 You guys don't understand what I'm feeling , she's WHITE and I'm BLACK , I know I'll never find a white GF again , I don't know how I made her faLl inlove with me but she's gone & I relize what I had , its painful to realize what u had my family members loved her so much they keep asking abt her this is painful
erklat Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 It will get better. I know it sucks hearing this since you're in pain now... She chose the easy way out. Remember that. Breaking up is easier than work together to be happy - together.
Radu Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 If you want her back, this is what will work against you : - harassing her with phone calls and generally trying to get her back desperately It sends the signal that she is more valuable than you are, which implies you have no self-esteem about your importance, which lowers your attraction in her eyes. If anything, this way of acting will only enforce her position. I won't even mention singing her sappy songs; she left you for another guy ... why do you think that ? Because she saw him as 'better' and there are 2 problems with this, 1) acting this way will reinforce her position of choosing the better option, 2) you don't want someone who dumps you for someone else. You want someone who dumps you because the relationship doesn't work, but you really don't want someone who dumps you for someone else. This type of person has the making [if she's not already] of a serial monogamist. She's not cheating, but grass is greener is written in big letters in her future - As for your 'crimes' ... those are not dumpable offenses, at least not in my book. Your way of acting simply means you are highly shy, probably an introvert, or that you have boundaries [it's common courtesy to phone before visiting dude]. I don't know how to comment on telling you to wait for her to be ready to have sex ... And putting your picture as her FB profile, would freak me out a little too. There are some levels of wrong in that, but it depends on age of relationship and other factors [i'm very particular about where my picture goes]. Personally i have a weird vibe from you describing this girl. The kind of vibe that makes me look closer to another person, because i feel there is something beneath the facade they don't want to show [in a desperate way].
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 You guys don't understand what I'm feeling , she's WHITE and I'm BLACK , I know I'll never find a white GF again , I don't know how I made her faLl inlove with me but she's gone & I relize what I had , its painful to realize what u had my family members loved her so much they keep asking abt her this is painful Sigh....dude, EVERYONE here knows what you are feeling. Sadly,your story isnt different. I realize you're in pain, but come on now be realistic. You're in college, I'd imagine you have WAY more of a brain than this. You are what like 21 MAX but probably more like 18 or 19 years old. So, you are saying (god willing), you live like what 50 more years alone? That's dumb. You will be fine. It's a breakup, not a sentence of death. Race thing means NOTHING. Again, you'll be fine. Think realistically. 3
kat1012 Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I understand your pain. I sorta went through what you are going through (or still going through it 6 months after my bf left me). There are things that my then boyfriend did which I hated (e.g. him playing with his phone when we are hanging out, drunk texting and calling me at 3, too spontaneous and never made plans when he knows I have busy schedules and like things planned ahead instead of 1 hour before) I reacted to these, telling him that it doesnt make me feel good and he called me a drama queen. after he left me, I questioned myself whether I should have just accepted it and be nicer instead reacting about it, being a "drama queen". I also had a feeling that I didnt know what I had until I really lost it forever. There are things I wish I didnt do or say. I looked back to my relationship a lot and have learnt quite a few from it Everyone has his own standard and boundaries. I dont know if you have talked to her about the things she's been doing which you hated. If you didnt, maybe next time when you didnt like sth the other is doing, talk to her about it in hopes to work things out between you and her. If you already did, then either accpeted her for who she is or if you couldnt then the relationship is not going to last very long. It's not your fault that you didnt like the things she's doing, it's not her fault she's doing what you didnt like. You and her are just being yourselves and I believe a relationship is gonna last long if both can be themselves and both can accept the other for who they are. What happened between you and her is just you two are not that compatible She's left you for another guy. she has been thinking for a break up for quite some time already. There's hardly anything one can do when the other decided to check themselves out of the relationship. Whether she will come back depends on her, and the last thing you want to do is to push her away further. Calling her everyday is not gonna help you to get her back, it may further annoy her. So stop yourself from contacting her, restrain yourself from doing so. It also gives yourself time to heal. And it's not worth it to miss school because of a girl who left you! I don't know how long your relationship lasted. I am in my final year of college. My first boyfriend, the first guy I loved left me, I was devastated for one month, and kept thinking about it a lot for a few months and sometimes I coudlnt study because of it. One day I told myself that it's not worth it to throw away my years of hardwork because of a relationship that someone could throw away that easily. One day, you will find someone better. We all will Good luck! 1
Author iMissHerSoSoMuch Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Will never find another white girlfriend again:( I can't date black girls(my own race) I feel as if I downgrade
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 You guys don't understand what I'm feeling , she's WHITE and I'm BLACK , I know I'll never find a white GF again , I don't know how I made her faLl inlove with me but she's gone & I relize what I had , its painful to realize what u had my family members loved her so much they keep asking abt her this is painful Everyone knows how you're feeling, this is a break up forum...
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Will never find another white girlfriend again:( I can't date black girls(my own race) I feel as if I downgrade Lol, what?
Frank2thepoint Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 - she used to come to my house door without telling (I always found this annoying) (I should've appriecated that) - she was always the one to contact first (I shouldve apprecaited that by contacting first) - she would always come to my group in college & sit with me and my friends (I also found this annoying) - she Told me to wait for her to be ready to have sex ( stupidity of me I became angry) - she always uses my picture as her facebook profile pic & update status abt loving me (this extremely annoyed me) I'm so so stupid its like everything she did when I had her annoyed me , now she's GONE , GONE Forever , I regret not loving her , how can I get her back ? I really want her back guys help me. It seems you miss her annoying you. Maybe you like self-deprecation because why would you want to be with someone that annoyed the sh*t out of you in almost every way? You guys don't understand what I'm feeling , she's WHITE and I'm BLACK , I know I'll never find a white GF again Hmm, it seems your ex-girlfriend did not get the memo "once you go black, you never go back". I'm sorry to hear that bro.
organizedchaos Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I'm calling this one a fake post. Thanks for playing OP.
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