MapleWish Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 So there's this guy in my writing class named Adam, I really liked him but last night when I hung out with him and his roommate, his roomie told me that Adam is a one night stand kind of guy and doesn't let things go further than that. Whether or not the roomie was telling the truth or not I don't know, him and Adam are Australian and the roomie confirmed that Aussies are smartasses. But regardless I was torn between choosing a one night stand with Adam or not, I chose NOT but now I'm wondering how can I just be friends with him? Guess I'm not good at making friends with guys cause usually the guys I know just want sex and when they know they're not getting any from me they stop being my friend. Anyways I got Adam's number and his roomies. I've been textin the roomie, just being friendly but I haven't been texting Adam, I don't know what to say! I mean what do I say to a guy who I used to like so much and now I'm kinda hurt because he only does ONS, plus last night when me and his roomie and bunch of other people went out for drinks, Adam wasnt hinting like I was trying to do to with him, I was sitting close to him talking to him etc. how do I convert to just friends? With me it's always been if I act like myself around guys I don't have a crush on, those guys end up liking me. But when I actually like a guy, I let my emotions act up and I don't act like myself, I'm always trying to get them to notice me and notice that I like them. But how can I talk to Adam now, if anything I figured our dynamic could just be a flirty friendship. I had friendships like that with guys, a coworker of mine flirts with me all the time but he's friendly about it like a best friend.
whichwayisup Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 This all has to come from you. Change your mindset and never let yourself 'think of him' outside of platonic friendship. Give yourself time and space to get over your crush, focus on other friends and keep busy. A new dynamic has to happen and then once you don't have any feelings for him maybe a casual friendship can happen.
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