c0nfused88 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Regardless of how you got into the situation or the circumstances, have you ever been in love with two people at the same time? How did you decide between them? Do you regret your decision? How do you fall out of love with one of them?
TaraMaiden Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 If you're in love with two people, go for the second one you fell in love with, Because if your love for the first had been stronger, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second one. I didn't say this. He did. But I completely agree with him. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 The secret is...you don't need to fall out of love with someone in order to love or fall for someone else. Can you love or be in love with two people at the same time? you can definitely love two people at the same, we do it with family, friends and many other things in life, many people spend an extended time in a relationship with someone they supposedly love or are in love with then they break up...3 to 6 months later they're in love or love someone else. People say it doesn't work that and things are different, it's not all the same I agree but go ahead if you understand it fully you're welcome to draw me a graph about how love and the heart works and explain exactly where, when why and how each love is different...but what exactly makes you believe you are "in love" with either of these people in the first place? chances are, if not guaranteed you have a hard time understanding how you feel...at the very least confused, it's a confusing situation, especially without experience. Can you distinguish what is difference inside of yourself between feeling in love or just loving? many may say so, but you'd have every reason to believe they are just as biased or judgmental in their own self-preservation in believing so, possibly even naive. Or is it simply a moral or idealistic decision to only be in love with one person because that's the way for some unknown reason that it's "supposed to be". If you fell "in love" with two people at the same time then what would you say then? it is impossible, or a mistake, how would you know? who would tell you?...so do you question what "in love" is or just consider yourself dysfunctional? Good luck defining the two, because my heart has pulled me into a pretzel on more than one occasion, but that is the point...you have to figure it out for yourself, what it means to you...as they are mostly subjective, through experience you gain a better understanding but maybe not the golden nugget to understanding life itself...I've yet to see a man who has or that there ever will be, impossible? who knows, anything is possible...right? However, will you be with either of these people at the end of the day?....magic 8 ball says "not likely"...so you've got to learn from your experiences, and if you really care, try to put the pieces together...not because you've got some loves to juggle but because you want to understand yourself and how you feel.
central Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Regardless of how you got into the situation or the circumstances, have you ever been in love with two people at the same time? How did you decide between them? Do you regret your decision? How do you fall out of love with one of them? Yes, I have. I didn't decide between them, I kept them both by having a polyamorous relationship that lasted a couple of years. I did have a preference for one, who also had a greater preference for me, and the other really wanted a more secondary role so it worked out well. Eventually the secondary met someone she wanted to pursue as a primary, so it ended amicably.
newmoon Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 if you think you're in love with 2 people you dump them both and find a 3rd that has the qualities of both those people. you can't love 2 people at once. imo what's happening when people say this is that they are torn between qualities that each person has - not the person themselves. each of the 2 people has a mix of what you want, but isn't the 100% match. so, you find a 3rd, because neither of the 2 is right.
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I think that loving two people at once is a pretty ridiculous idea. Seems like a continually dissatisfied philosophy of love saying that we're never going to be satisfied with just one person. I've been in love with someone before, and because of that...I was willing to give them everything I had. If I love two people, I'd have to divide my time into two different people. It's like half-assing two relationships. I just don't think it's really possible. It's possible to date and carry a relationship, sure, but I don't think you can really have those feelings I experienced into two people. 1
SmartDude Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 When I start to have those feelings for someone, I can focus only on them and my own life. No time for a possible confusing situation, I got other things to do! So when I develop those feelings for a person, I actively shut out the prospect of any one else. I stop going out and trying to meet new people and just focus on my day to day existence. Been lucky so far... I actually dread the idea of having deep emotions for 2 women at once, However this only happens when I am feeling like I want something more than just good times. It is a certain individual who brings that out in me. Keep it simple;)
Conners Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 I don't think you can truly love two people 100%. You might love one of them like you would always love a family member but it's not the same as being in love with someone. I hope that makes sense. 1
soccerrprp Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 No, I do not think you can be in love with two people with equivalent measure and quality. 1
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