dp Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Ok, my boyfriend an I recently broke up and have now agreed to give it another try. We are going to go to counselling to help us communicate with each other. My problem is that I just found out that he has a friend (a girl) that up until recently I thought was just the sister of his guy friend. He has other girl friends that I know about but, this one was kept secret. I found pictures of her in his e-mail and he said that her brother sent them to him to print out but, our printer was out of ink so he just saved them. He said her brother sent them to him because his ex-girlfriend was in the pictures but, she was only in 2 out of 4. The other 2 had this kids sister in them. I see that he has her as his buddy in IM, I think that she calls him on his cell and text messages him and I intercepted an e-mail from her where she signed it with 3 hearts. She recently joined the firehall where he is a fireman and I found out that she and her friend (my boyfriends friends ex) go to the firehall and visit with my boyfriend. My b/f said that he didn't tell me because to him it was no big deal because they are just friends. To me it seems like he's keeping it a secret from me. I think that he found someone who will lend a sympathetic ear because we are having problems and I think that she is the type of girl that finds excitement in coming between 2 people. We have been together for 4 years and we live together. I just don't think that this should be going on. Am I overreacting? He did come back after a very nasty fight and say that he wants to work things out and go to counselling. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel about his new "friend."
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 17, 2005 Posted January 17, 2005 Originally posted by dp He did come back after a very nasty fight and say that he wants to work things out and go to counselling. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel about his new "friend." Make the appointment, ASAP. Bring that up in your counseling session and talk it out there. Your counselor will be able to help the two of you talk about it. Whatever the reason/motivation/secret - it will come out in counseling - you just have to bring it up and insist that you talk about it.
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