lionheart153 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 So, its been about a month since she broke up with me. I realize that it seems pretty hopeless. Shes been smart to not show any bread crumbs and has gone almost NC on me to avoid any false hope. To the point I feel its pretty heartless since we were together for so long. I finally deactivated my FB and instagram to avoid being hurt anymore for just about 2 weeks now. And the only contract we had was last week when I let her know I was dropping off my key and getting the last of my things while she was at work. I made sure to end the exchange of msgs where I wouldn't be the last to reply. It may have been me just over thinking but I thought she was trying to talk more with me but I'm probably just holding onto false hope. Anyway she still owes me money. Close to $1000 and she needs to get her name under her cell and internet and stuff as they are all under my name. I really don't feel like talking to her but I don't seem have many options at this point as all those things require me to at least speak to her no matter how brief. Of course I miss her and want her back, but it looks pretty hopeless, she doesn't seem to have waivered in the slightest and thats the type of person she is. If you haven't read my other posts to sum it up, the break up came out of no where, there were no signs, she just broke up with me one day and I still don't have any clarification. She did offer to try to clarify things a few weeks ago but I didn't take the bait and followed NC. But now I feel like I might want to know, and I know many will say stick to NC but I was reading a post about fighting for the her, and being persistant. Having seen a close friend of mine go through a break up and got back together being persistant (they are now happily married) I am starting to wonder, if I should try fighting for her. By Bestfriend thinks I should try anything I can, and thinking back to how we started dating thats how it began, she didn't want to ruin the friendship but I was persistant and then went NC. So I know I have to talk to her soon. Can anyone offer suggestions on how to do this about money, which can be a touchy subject, and what opinions anyone has on how I am feeling about fighting for her?
Blastoplast Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Forget about the cash, 9 times out of 10 I don't think money issues in break-ups get resolved. My ex still owes me $7k -- I won't be seeing any of it.
Author lionheart153 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Forget about the cash, 9 times out of 10 I don't think money issues in break-ups get resolved. My ex still owes me $7k -- I won't be seeing any of it. She has been pretty mature about the break up, making sure not to give false hope and she wrote me a cheque for some of the things she kept on the day of the break up, she needed time for the rest, and I don't think she is the type of person that would screw me over. Do you really think I should just let that money go? (cuz i could use it since i had to find a new place.) Plus I still need to speak to her about the cell, internet, and TV. I can't be paying for that stuff and if don't switch it ill have to keep paying or it will ruin my credit.
Author lionheart153 Posted February 11, 2014 Author Posted February 11, 2014 So I've been 2 weeks NC, and she contacted me today. She called but it went to voice mail, she just wanted to know how to switch her cell and tv over to herself. I talked to my therapist and decided to just text her the instructions. So tried tried to talk like asking where the closest store was to go do it, but I didnt respond. Later she emailed me saying that I can get my mail in the slot whenever I need to. Didn't respond. Today I got a notice from the flower company that I use. It was to confirm my order for V-day as I had ordered them back in January before we broke up. It's to late for the refund, so I'm just curious should I cancel anyways or just let them send the flowers and let her know that it was sent back in January? Something my Therapist suggested.
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 So I've been 2 weeks NC, and she contacted me today. She called but it went to voice mail, she just wanted to know how to switch her cell and tv over to herself. I talked to my therapist and decided to just text her the instructions. So tried tried to talk like asking where the closest store was to go do it, but I didnt respond. Later she emailed me saying that I can get my mail in the slot whenever I need to. Didn't respond. Today I got a notice from the flower company that I use. It was to confirm my order for V-day as I had ordered them back in January before we broke up. It's to late for the refund, so I'm just curious should I cancel anyways or just let them send the flowers and let her know that it was sent back in January? Something my Therapist suggested. Take the loss. Cancel the shipment of flowers. I still got 110 dollars at my ex-girlfriend's university floating around somewhere because I had to cancel a trip that I made with the school after she broke up with me. I'm not ****ing going back to that school, so that money is gone as far as I'm concerned. Take the loss. ****in' take the loss.
David87 Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 No, don't send the flowers at all. That's playing games and it doesn't do anyone any favors. Maintain NC.
Author lionheart153 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 I dont know what to do anymore
d0nnivain Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Cancel the flowers. If you can't cancel, see if you can have them sent to your mom or if you can pick them up. Unless you have a writing signed by her, kiss the $1,000 good bye. You most likely won't see it. If you want to give it one shot at collecting it, send her a writing confirming that she owes you the money. If she acknowledges it in writing you may be able to bring her to court. If she doesn't, it's hopeless. Send her written instructions on how to get her cell phone & internet severed from the packages you pay for. Tell her that if she doesn't voluntarily switch them soon you will drop them in 30 days. You have to give her some notice.
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