Mr me to Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 So I've been through all the stages of grief and more. Now I'm focusing on myself and being the best possible father I can be. I can't help thinking though if I had done this earlier I wouldn't be in this situation now, maybe we would still be together and happy. Weekends are the worst, I know she is with him. I think it makes it worse knowing she sees all the things in him supposed one of my friends that she didn't in me. Can't help but comparing myself and coming up short. Maybe what I seen in him as a friend she also sees. Maybe he sees in her what I did. I hate that I had what I thought was a deep connection with both of them. I've actually lost my two best friends. Both have rejected me for each other. It doesn't do much for your self of worth. Still haven't contacted either of them, but I am hearing about their relationship from my children. Sorry for babbling but feeling really ****ty today. The obsessing about my past relationships with both of them and their relationship together has been constant for the last couple of days. Feeling really rejected and lonely. I'm missing the connection with another adult human being.
ariesgirl-328 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 hey. I think you should tell your kids to stop telling you about the relationship and if they care about you they will stop. Hearing about the ex or seeing them always makes things worse and stops your healing. It's good that you're doing NC...wish I was strong enough to have stopped contacting my ex like that. You're freaking awesome man, many people never realize their faults and never fix them to have a better future relationship, atleast you have the willpower to do that and be better! This guy is a different person with a different life etc....there is no point in comparing yourself to him, it doesn't change anything. You just have to be the best you that you can be. and maybe someday you'll be with another women that's way better than your ex...and she'll feel the way you do now....you never know. So you can never stop growing and moving forward. 1
Author Mr me to Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Thanks... Really don't know what's been up with me today, feel like I've regressed a month. She's been on my mind constant, mainly reliving old memories. Hopefully it's all part of the healing process and it will pass. Noticed feelings come and go in waves. Can't really tell my children to not mention him, they are four and five and this is a big change for them also, don't ever want to make anything off limits for them to talk to me about. 1
Itspointless Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Can't really tell my children to not mention him, they are four and five and this is a big change for them also, don't ever want to make anything off limits for them to talk to me about. Sounds like you are a great father. Hang on in there man, you are doing great! And yeah, feelings do come in waves. Just as the stages of grief are not linear. 2
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