Tayken Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Started talking to this woman 3 days ago...she has the intellect, degrees, 4 kids with 3 of them being teens and 2 dogs ( that much kids scare me, and I don't do pets) Anyway, she was not bad either physically i.e. slim body for a 43 yr old, nice little ass etc However, she had claimed that she is new to online dating, only to have way tell me that she was on her own for a long time, then reconnected via facebook with a guy from high school whilst she was still married and he was as well at the time, he also has 4 kids. They started spending time together and had a 5yr relationship. After that ended she started dating another guy for almost a year and that ended last September....but she still saw him last December (but she had told me September) All this being said....I mentioned to her that nobody wants to be dealing with someone who doesn't know what they want, still has an ex in the background, and only recently just split...it's not fair on all involved. She admitted that of all the messages she had receive so far, mine was the only one that had substance, and was refreshing. At the end of the date, she had mentioned that she needs time to digest all this, and we just hugged. I sent her a text this morning saying she needs to decide what she wants and make up her mind. I am not on facebook, and I particularly don't have time for would be partners who spend their time on it hooking up with past BFs etc. FB has screwed up a lot of relationships
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 So what do you want from us? It sounds like you already made up your mind that you want nothing else to do with her. The only thing you liked about her was her body. You're moving on. 1
HappyLove Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 One date and already you both need time to "digest" this. You should be on cloud 9 or in like with someone after a first date. You don't like all the kids, don't like pets, she CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND!!!!!!! Ummmmm, what is there to figure out here? You honestly never should of made it to date ONE knowing all this in advance. 2
BradJacobs Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 One date and already you both need time to "digest" this. You should be on cloud 9 or in like with someone after a first date. You don't like all the kids, don't like pets, she CHEATED ON HER HUSBAND!!!!!!! Ummmmm, what is there to figure out here? You honestly never should of made it to date ONE knowing all this in advance. But she's slim and has nice assets.
Author Tayken Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 But she's slim and has nice assets. I was more attracted to what she has done for herself in life in light of the obstacles....raising 4 kids by herself, getting a degree and then a Master's degree She was easy to talk to, and mature. We are both in our 40s but she is 3 yrs older (just the way I like them)
FitChick Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I was more attracted to what she has done for herself in life in light of the obstacles....raising 4 kids by herself, getting a degree and then a Master's degree. She was easy to talk to, and mature. We are both in our 40s but she is 3 yrs older (just the way I like them) So if she was overweight you'd feel the same?
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Talking about past experiences with relationships on a first date is, needless to say, a gigantic red flag. I think you need to get a piece of that little ass and find someone else who is actually gonna last you 250,000 miles.
MidwestUSA Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Exactly how did she lie about online dating? She said she was new to it. So? What's wrong with meeting via Facebook? That's how I met my husband. In a way it beats OLD, as you come with references (mutual friends). She's demonstrated that she's had successful LTRs. She probably needs time to 'digest' the fact that all you see in her is her ass. Let her go. 1
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