irc333 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 There's this woman I met, VERY local to me, we could meet up without a hitch within minutes. She's agreed to meet up with me, but..can never find the time. She's either always "out of town" at meetings, have her hopping around the state and is hardly ever home and quite frankly looking for friends OUTSIDE of where she lives, but prefers friendships to where she's traveling. Sometimes I'd see her remove her photos for a few weeks, then they'd be back up on POF again. Thing is, she says she works for a hair salon, but she's always at "meetings" and such....her profile says "Management" so I'm assuming she's flying around or traveling to different franchises? She even changed her location to another city in the state Starting to think I have "catfish" here. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Same thing happened to me back in 2012, I met this nice girl on OKC and she was local to me. She gave a cellphone number which turned out to be a VOIP number and It was a scam artist. The person gave a sob story saying how I love you and your text were amazing then asked for money. I never any money. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Just tell her "I'm not interested in continuing this if we aren't meeting soon" and forget her. How weird. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 Move along, no need to render an explanation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted February 8, 2014 Share Posted February 8, 2014 ^What JDPT said.^ It's pretty hard to catfish at a meetup... but it wouldn't surprise me if OLDSs started hiring shills to crash meetups in the hope of derailing them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 If you keep throwing more bait at him/her, it'll give you something to post about here! As long as you know what you're getting into, go for it. Report back, I just started watching the show. Fascinating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 If you keep throwing more bait at him/her, it'll give you something to post about here! As long as you know what you're getting into, go for it. Report back, I just started watching the show. Fascinating. Great show and very good productive but because of that experience I see myself now as never getting date because of my anti smoking stance. I just want to date a women knowing she never used tobacco. How do I do that. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Great show and very good productive but because of that experience I see myself now as never getting date because of my anti smoking stance. I just want to date a women knowing she never used tobacco. How do I do that. I think smoking is getting to be less mainstream, so you have good chance. There is also nothing wrong with someone who has quit, don't write that person off. It takes a lot of willpower! Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I think smoking is getting to be less mainstream, so you have good chance. There is also nothing wrong with someone who has quit, don't write that person off. It takes a lot of willpower! Good luck! I agree but as a guy never smoked, I just cant believe people who smoked will quiet. I do have respect for people who quiet smoking especially with the "alternatives" of smokeless tobacco here in the states and Europe. Smoking getting less mainstream, maybe but the big tobacco reps and marketing is way more than I saw back in England. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I agree but as a guy never smoked, I just cant believe people who smoked will quiet. I do have respect for people who quiet smoking especially with the "alternatives" of smokeless tobacco here in the states and Europe. Smoking getting less mainstream, maybe but the big tobacco reps and marketing is way more than I saw back in England. My husband just quit after 25 years. Now, we're at an age where we're starting to see people we know die or get diagnosed with serious illnesses, and a lot of friends are quitting too. I can see how younger people are still in immortal mode tho. You'll find someone! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I know a guy that was on the show. He lives a few houses down from me. I used to hang out with his brother a lot. When I saw my block on tv I said to myself, WTF!? Lol Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Great show and very good productive but because of that experience I see myself now as never getting date because of my anti smoking stance. I just want to date a women knowing she never used tobacco. How do I do that. Nearly everyone had tried it once. You're being too rigid. One smoke does not an addict make. You need to get past it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jcrew11 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 its probably a guy trying to mess with people, or a scammer. Or even a woman who is married but cheating online because she is unhappy Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Nearly everyone had tried it once. You're being too rigid. One smoke does not an addict make. You need to get past it. My husband just quit after 25 years. Now, we're at an age where we're starting to see people we know die or get diagnosed with serious illnesses, and a lot of friends are quitting too. I can see how younger people are still in immortal mode tho. You'll find someone! Thanks pickflickr for the advice, i must be a quite unique guy, had friends who never smoked, they drank, however, if you do smoke on cig or use tobacco, it is a drug and you sill get hooked until you get cancer. Thanks MidWestUSA, I know that people can quiet but as a person who used to work and own a store, all i see is people buying smokes or other tobacco. I do see that now more people drink more than smoke. Even women who have kids, they just buy newport or black and mild like its candy. This makes me rethink my life. I wished i dated earlier in life. I used to drink but no cutting down. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Kart, you're seeing these people because they are there specifically to buy those products. I'm assuming you're taking about a convenience store? Of course it's going to be liquor, cigarettes and lottery tickets. If you worked at a health food store, you'd be seeing people buy health food. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Kart, you're seeing these people because they are there specifically to buy those products. I'm assuming you're taking about a convenience store? Of course it's going to be liquor, cigarettes and lottery tickets. If you worked at a health food store, you'd be seeing people buy health food. Thanks for the quick reply, MidWestUSA, i do, my parents just say they smoke and drink is their choice, why do u care so much. You are not the president or goveror. I just laugh a little, of course i can't because i never did drugs At least CVS os trying to be a real pharmacy. Wish i worked at a healthy store. I never ever seen so much tobacco in the uk. Everything is regulated Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Share Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks for the quick reply, MidWestUSA, i do, my parents just say they smoke and drink is their choice, why do u care so much. You are not the president or goveror. I just laugh a little, of course i can't because i never did drugs At least CVS os trying to be a real pharmacy. Wish i worked at a healthy store. I never ever seen so much tobacco in the uk. Everything is regulated Okay, we need to stay on topic here. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) Thanks pickflickr for the advice, i must be a quite unique guy, had friends who never smoked, they drank, however, if you do smoke on cig or use tobacco, it is a drug and you sill get hooked until you get cancer. Thanks MidWestUSA, I know that people can quiet but as a person who used to work and own a store, all i see is people buying smokes or other tobacco. I do see that now more people drink more than smoke. Even women who have kids, they just buy newport or black and mild like its candy. This makes me rethink my life. I wished i dated earlier in life. I used to drink but no cutting down. Um, I tried cigarettes 14 years ago and am not "hooked". I tried it, I hated it, I never smoked again. You are not unique, just plain wrong. On topic, I can't say if I've had a catfisher or not. I had one guy who was very cagey about sending photos, so I flicked him before we even got to the phone number stage. Everyone else I've met looked like their picture. Edited February 9, 2014 by pickflicker 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Um, I tried cigarettes 14 years ago and am not "hooked". I tried it, I hated it, I never smoked again. You are not unique, just plain wrong. On topic, I can't say if I've had a catfisher or not. I had one guy who was very cagey about sending photos, so I flicked him before we even got to the phone number stage. Everyone else I've met looked like their picture. Thanks, pickflicker. I guess I was wrong, I guess people can get quiet cigs easily. I was the same with drink, drank once and hated it mainly because I am want to be healthy and worried about what it might do to my liver. on topic, That is good to know that you met nice guys who looked like their picture. I never get cagey about sending my pics. I don't mind I have so many selfies out there on the web. It does not matter. Phone number wise I do give out my number but only if the women provides a picture of herself and I do a full reverse image check to see if its on any scam warning websites. Thanks again, Its good to see that you are not "hooked" on cigs. I did chose my wording wrongly I know but I have never been around people who smoked before going into business. I guess its my dumb decision and my need to change scenery. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 on the topic of cat fishing, I really dont know why people mostly guys from India do it. I am a great person from England but due to my nature I do sometimes fall into that trap when I was using online dating sites. Now I just leave those sites well alone. Every time I see those match.com adverts I just roll my eyes saying thats not real. :roll Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 On topic, I can't say if I've had a catfisher or not. I had one guy who was very cagey about sending photos, so I flicked him before we even got to the phone number stage. Everyone else I've met looked like their picture. I really dont know why guys get cagey when sending pics, I would glady send my pics as they are already on the web. If you want you can search my name Kart Durai and it will come up with three pictures of me and my twitter. I have nothing to hide. Link to post Share on other sites
pickflicker Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Thanks, pickflicker. I guess I was wrong, I guess people can get quiet cigs easily. I was the same with drink, drank once and hated it mainly because I am want to be healthy and worried about what it might do to my liver. on topic, That is good to know that you met nice guys who looked like their picture. I never get cagey about sending my pics. I don't mind I have so many selfies out there on the web. It does not matter. Phone number wise I do give out my number but only if the women provides a picture of herself and I do a full reverse image check to see if its on any scam warning websites. Thanks again, Its good to see that you are not "hooked" on cigs. I did chose my wording wrongly I know but I have never been around people who smoked before going into business. I guess its my dumb decision and my need to change scenery. Moderate consumption of red wine is showed to have heath benefits. Moderate consumption of alcohol (a few drinks a week), will not have effect your health in an adverse way. You should read up more on the science of addiction to get a better understanding of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I am love a woman that smokes... I love a woman who does not smoke as well.... Kart, no drinks no waccy bacci, cigs. Your from South London. `the den of iniquity` Sarf of the river! Lewisham, Woolwich, and of course the dreaded New Cross! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 Moderate consumption of red wine is showed to have heath benefits. Moderate consumption of alcohol (a few drinks a week), will not have effect your health in an adverse way. You should read up more on the science of addiction to get a better understanding of it. I know that red wine have health befits but because I just take everything to extreme. I can drink 4 cans of red bull + monster and a rockstar and just go crazy. cry,laugh and just black out so that is why I stopped.I got a real problem with caffeine. That and my mom said why you drink because of our family relatives died from alcoholism I am a real mess. Link to post Share on other sites
kart180 Posted February 9, 2014 Share Posted February 9, 2014 I am love a woman that smokes... I love a woman who does not smoke as well.... Kart, no drinks no waccy bacci, cigs. Your from South London. `the den of iniquity` Sarf of the river! Lewisham, Woolwich, and of course the dreaded New Cross! haha, I am from Croydon, I know about the problems back in UK, one of the main reasons I left. I was never a person who went out or partied. Link to post Share on other sites
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