irc333 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Something I've noticed lately. I have a friend that has a strict policy to not date liberals, as they would seriously be at conflict with each other. Also, he's a Christian seeking only Christian, but the thing is I've noticed Christian people would probably okay with having a boyfriend/girlfriend staying home while they go to church. It's like physical attraction/chemistry comes number 1 over anything else. So apparently belief systems are pretty low on the totem pole when it comes to dating. I know this female friend, she's an avid church goer, plays the organ in church, and is highly involved, but dating a guy that has never set foot in a church...and guess what she's okay with that? Why? "Because he treats he well, is a gentleman, a nice guy, etc etc" "Sure, but is he Christian" Her: "Well, I guess, he puts his head down when I say grace for dinner and that's about it". I think avid Christian men/women meet their counter parts in church, and kind of get frustrated that THESE people aren't dating THEM. "Hey, where's your boyfriend, he's not coming to church with you?" "Nah, he's out playing golf?" "Cool, how about dating a REAL Christian for a change? Let's grab a bite *wink*" (Of course, I'm being facetious with that last statement...but it does drive a point. LOL)
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Everyone has something that they consider to be absolute essential in a relationship. For some couples, religion matters more than others. Some people are religious but perfectly content with the fact that they both share different religions. For some people, it doesn't really matter whether they go to church...as long as they're able to do basic things like hang a cross up on the wall without being all "I hate my God damn wife with all this religious bull****." It all depends on who you talk to.
KathyM Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 People who take their faith very seriously would, of course, want someone who also shares their faith. I think most people do prefer someone who shares their faith. But religious faith is not the only criteria that people use to determine compatibility. There are many levels of compatibility that people consider, such as education and lifestyle. Physical attractiveness is also something people consider when deciding who to date. I know it must be difficult to be overlooked by a fellow Christian, who used other criteria to select a mate as being more important to them than their faith, which is supposed to be THE most important criteria for a Christian when selecting a dating partner. I would suggest working on those other things that also lead to attracting a mate: personality, sense of humor, physical attractiveness, interesting lifestyle, interesting hobbies, etc.
Phoe Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 My boyfriend is a very devout Christian, in school studying Theology, and is in the process of becoming a Pastor. I'm not Christian. I'm agnostic. He is not only okay with me being non-Christian, but actually prefers it this way. Says I challenge him. My own views about religion and God, my logical, rational, scientific based explanations for things make him think very hard about his own views, which in turn makes him feel that much stronger in his faith. The fact that I can challenge him so logically and his beliefs still stand strong, makes him feel very certain in his faith. It prevents him from becoming complacent. I'm glad I can do this for him. I support him 100%
KathyM Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 My boyfriend is a very devout Christian, in school studying Theology, and is in the process of becoming a Pastor. I'm not Christian. I'm agnostic. He is not only okay with me being non-Christian, but actually prefers it this way. Says I challenge him. My own views about religion and God, my logical, rational, scientific based explanations for things make him think very hard about his own views, which in turn makes him feel that much stronger in his faith. The fact that I can challenge him so logically and his beliefs still stand strong, makes him feel very certain in his faith. It prevents him from becoming complacent. I'm glad I can do this for him. I support him 100%Then your boyfriend is not following many of the Bible's teachings if he is dating an Agnostic. No offence, but Christians are supposed to follow God's will. 1
HokeyReligions Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Some are called "Sunday Christians" they believe in God and Jesus but dont always follow organized religions. They may go on Sunday but don't take part in any other church activities. Some go to church on holidays and others not at all. Anyone remember The Waltons? The mother Olivia was an avid church goer but the father John was not. They argued over that. But they made it work.
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Yeah, I once dated a woman that didn't believe in KISSING before marriage. That didn't last, wasn't because of that alone though, but it did indicate how extreme she was. What blew my mind was, kissing isn't even sinful. Some are called "Sunday Christians" they believe in God and Jesus but dont always follow organized religions. They may go on Sunday but don't take part in any other church activities. Some go to church on holidays and others not at all. Anyone remember The Waltons? The mother Olivia was an avid church goer but the father John was not. They argued over that. But they made it work.
Allumere Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 Then your boyfriend is not following many of the Bible's teachings if he is dating an Agnostic. No offence, but Christians are supposed to follow God's will. Then there are a heck of a lot of successful marriages that include pastors for that matter in serious trouble. I also see a lot of Christians alone, or who stuck with that "Christian" only approach and they get divorced and have problems like everyone else. Not busting on Christians. It is certainly easier and an ideal/worthwhile principle to marry of the same faith....but reality is not always the ideal.
Author irc333 Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 Then there are a heck of a lot of successful marriages that include pastors for that matter in serious trouble. I also see a lot of Christians alone, or who stuck with that "Christian" only approach and they get divorced and have problems like everyone else. Not busting on Christians. It is certainly easier and an ideal/worthwhile principle to marry of the same faith....but reality is not always the ideal. That's a good point , too. I read an article somewhere , with the current knowledge of that 1 out of ever 2 marriages....in GENERAL end in divorce....with active, church going Christians, the same ratio still applies. When I was younger it used to kind of blow my mind when I would go to Christian singles groups at the churches that I think every man and woman there over the age of 30 was divorced at least once. I guess the whole "Death Do Us Part" thing didn't catch on there either. lol.
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