Kat_luv Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 His birthday is tomorrow and it's been a year since we broke up. It wasn't pretty, I didn't really get closure & I still think about him. We both have someone new but I feel like I haven't 100% moved on since the break up was so sudden and he was my first everything. It's weird though, when I see recent photos of him or what he openly posts (only mutual contact is his sister is friends with me on fb) he looks & seems completely different, not someone I would want to think twice about but I haven't been able to stop.
BC1980 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Don't wish an ex happy birthday unless you are completely over it. It's kind of pointless anyway and means very little in the long run. You don't ever really get closure or get over these things. They just become less relavant to your life, and the sting becomes less.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 His birthday is tomorrow and it's been a year since we broke up. It wasn't pretty, I didn't really get closure & I still think about him. We both have someone new but I feel like I haven't 100% moved on since the break up was so sudden and he was my first everything. It's weird though, when I see recent photos of him or what he openly posts (only mutual contact is his sister is friends with me on fb) he looks & seems completely different, not someone I would want to think twice about but I haven't been able to stop. If thats what you feel, then why does it really matter? Saying happy birthday or not wont mean really anything for him or you. If you are writing on here about whether or not to text your ex WHEN you are with someone else speaks volumes currently IMO. Dont do it....and really look at yourself and your current relationship and really figure out if you are committed to new guy.
counterman Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Why do you want to wish him a happy birthday? What does it achieve? I agree with what the others have said. Look after yourself and your current relationship. It won't be fair on your current partner if you're still hung up on your ex. Also, are you still in contact with your ex's sister? Do you really need her on your Facebook list? I'm saying this because seeing his pictures will set you back; trust me you don't want to know what's going on in his life. It's better if you don't know. Look after yourself first and foremost
realfriends Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Dont do it. Like BC said, unless you're 100% healed, its never advisable to. What is the best that can happen? Typically things like this make you feel good for a day that you were "nice", and then have their consequences down the road.
charliemorgan Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I don't think you should do it. He didn't have the decency to call you, text you or email you? I personally wouldn't do it. This will just boost his ego and make you feel crappy if he ignores you or throws a simple thanks at you.
devilish innocent Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 There's no reason for you to wish him a happy birthday. He's your ex, not your friend. I'd keep maintaining complete no contact You can also look into getrather.com if you don't want his pictures and posts to show up in your Facebook thread. It's an app. You tell it what Facebook pictures or statuses you don't want to see, and it automatically hides them before they make their way on to your Facebook page. It might be useful if you feel seeing him on Facebook is keeping you stuck at all.
mantlefan Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I don't think there's anything wrong with wishing him a happy birthday. Just don't tell anyone but yourself. When you wake up and see the date on your calendar or you phone or watch or whatever, whisper happy birthday, _______" to yourself. And then if thoughts of it being his birthday come up again, try to move on from them.
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 If you love him, you don't want to affect the day of his birthday. You want him to have the best day of his life! Contacting him wouldn't be beneficial to him, nor would it for you. Wait till tomorrow to wish him a happy birthday, but wishing him a happy birthday after his birthday is just as useless. Essentially, don't wish him a happy birthday. Assume that he knows you would say "happy birthday" if you could...and that's all you need to know. 1
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