sighh Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 last night my dad informed me we're moving interstate and i either haveto go with him, move overseas to live with my mum or move out on my own. i felt the need to tell me ex so after 20 days no contact i called her, she didn't answer but called me back 5mins later i told her about how i need to move somewhere and she was just like "oh thats a bit full on" didn't sound like she cared as much as i thought she would, i couldn't help but ask a few questions about how she's been and found out she's going on a bit of a date with a guy shes been talking to for a while tonight... it hurt me a little bit once the call was over.. and now im sitting here on a saturday night with nothing to do dwelling on the situation
Misfortune Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Sucks but now you know not to put your hand back in the fire again. They usually don't care anymore if they've done the dumping. Have you decided which move you're going to do? Try to focus on that so that you can move forward in life without your ex. 1
TheyCallMeOx Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Don't dwell on mistakes. The important thing is that you learn from them and move on. Consider moving away as an opportunity for you to start over. I would love to live somewhere completely different because there'd be new opportunity for women! Moving away, I could leave the past behind and take this opportunity to better myself! However, it's really how you view the situation. Always think about the fact that you choose to dwell on situations. You don't have to sit on the computer and dwell on a Saturday; hell, play some video games, or do what I do...go to the park. Bring some food, some drink, a book (or something) and enjoy the scenery. Hell, bring a friend if you can. Have fun. Or you can decide to be productive and do the things you've been meaning to do but haven't "found the time to do them" (when, in reality, you probably just haven't had the motivation to do them). You don't have to be upset; you can be awesome instead! 1
Author sighh Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 i haven't decided on which path to take with moving yet, it all got put on me last night so i'll need to think about it that's some really good advice, my biggest problem is making excuses not to do things, for some reason i choose to just sit here and dwell on it. I need to make a bigger effort to do stuff for myself... i'll try look at the positives in the situation thanks a ton for the replies they've actually helped
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 last night my dad informed me we're moving interstate and i either haveto go with him, move overseas to live with my mum or move out on my own. i felt the need to tell me ex so after 20 days no contact i called her, she didn't answer but called me back 5mins later i told her about how i need to move somewhere and she was just like "oh thats a bit full on" didn't sound like she cared as much as i thought she would, i couldn't help but ask a few questions about how she's been and found out she's going on a bit of a date with a guy shes been talking to for a while tonight... it hurt me a little bit once the call was over.. and now im sitting here on a saturday night with nothing to do dwelling on the situation Hey man, first off I'm sorry about the move. It sucks when someone tells you about leaving JUST like that. It's a quick shock. Now onto the ex....to be honest, this is one of those times I dont really have anything negative to say on breaking NC. You can call me one of those "NC Nazi's" or whatever, but I understand why you did it. Was it smart? NO of course not lol, but I understand. I think you get a clear picture now that its not in your best interest to contact her anymore. It will obviously keep you in this pain a lot longer than you need to. Sometimes, it takes a situation like this to really move forward. Again, I'm sorry it came down to this man. Keep your head up. I think this move will be a blessing to be honest. 1
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