Hungup123 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 So I don't use social media all that often, but I just saw that that my girlfriend (of 1 month), has her ex as her number one bestfriend on snapchat. After doing a quick search how bestfriends are determined on the app, its because of the number of messages sent between them, which makes sense. Since the relationship is so new, what should I do? If I call her out or say anything it will look as if I'm snooping and insecure. If I do nothing I could be facing potential disaster in the future. Any recommendations?
TXGuy Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 it is not necessarily a future disaster. Put it out of your head for now, but file that away for future reference. You have only known her for a month, so you should not get emotionally invested at this point anyway. Enjoy spending time with her and getting to know her better. If she is still communicating with her ex a month from now, just realize the relationship has no future and enjoy the physical aspect of it. If you find someone more compatible in the meantime, dump this one and date the new one that you might have a future with.
CrystalCastles Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Well, how was their breakup? Was it a mutual thing and they're friends now? Two of my guy friends still talk regularly to their exes on facebook because they ended their relationships on friendly terms and are still getting along well. Just because your gf is talking to her ex doesn't mean she's cheating. They could just be friends.
Author Hungup123 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 To be more clear we've dated for 3 months now and official for a month. I'm not sure if the breakup was bad, but I believe he cheated on her. Now that I think about it I thonk I've seen a few texts from him (ie sitting across the couch and seeing what appears to be his first name). As you mentuoned I'm just going to enjoy it for now, but for my own wellbeing don't want to mistakenly get hurt when I know its coming.
Conners Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I hate this feature, you can tell who's sending communicating the most via snap chat. Seems immature and irrelevant to some but I wouldn't worry about it. Are you in her top 3 at all? My ex was never in my top 3 only because he simply did not use snap chat that much. Although I noticed I was number one on his. I always have snap chat conversations with people when i'm bored at work and if I send like 10 to one person I find that they somehow creep into my top 3. You could just send her more snap chats, more than normal and see if you find yourself at the top of the list. If not, I would be worried because it means that her ex is still communicating with her more than you on it.
Author Hungup123 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 I hate this feature, you can tell who's sending communicating the most via snap chat. Seems immature and irrelevant to some but I wouldn't worry about it. Are you in her top 3 at all? My ex was never in my top 3 only because he simply did not use snap chat that much. Although I noticed I was number one on his. I always have snap chat conversations with people when i'm bored at work and if I send like 10 to one person I find that they somehow creep into my top 3. You could just send her more snap chats, more than normal and see if you find yourself at the top of the list. If not, I would be worried because it means that her ex is still communicating with her more than you on it. No I'm not in her top 3 and I probably send/receive a snap once every 2 days.
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