hannahsmith Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 We have been on 4 dates now. He just kissed me on the cheek after the first 2 and I thought fair enough. After the 3rd we went out for a few drinks and there was a little bit of chemistry but at the end he made it a bit awkward to kiss him so another cheek kiss. Then he text me saying he was shy and my friends said to give him another chance so I arranged another date watching a film at mine. I ended up kissing him twice after snuggling a bit each time but at the end of the film we just sat there again awkwardly. At the end of the night he just kissed me on the cheek again. What would you do? I don't want to have to initiate everything and I am a shy myself.
BlametheIrish Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 It sounds as though he's never kissed a woman before or is so out of practice it's making him to.scared to just go for it. Ypu can make a move, wait for him to (which might be never if he's petrified by fear) or rule him out as a SO. I'd just plant one on him if I were you, but I'm not shy by nature.
Author hannahsmith Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 He's been in a relationship before. I did kiss him twice but I don't want it to always be me kissing him, I am not good at initiating it but I try. My oral hygeine is meh, brushed my teeth a lot beforehand and used mouthwash, tongue scraper etc., but had wine. What can you do? (bar brushing my teeth mid date) I don't think it's any worse than anyone else's.
Leigh 87 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Do you have straight teeth? Perhaps he likes you but doesn't feel that much sexual chemistry? Yet is still giving you a chance? Perhaps he feels strong chemistry but you don't have nice teeth so that puts him off? Either those reasons^^^ OR, he is just extremely shy. Most men who feel strong chemistry towards a woman would DEFINATELY kiss them if home alone!
MrMeh Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Unless your breath smells like poop, I can guarantee you that you have a shy one on your hands which is not a problem. You have to take charge with these type of people and believe they will enjoy your smothering smooch. I would suggest aiming towards his lips no matter what he does to show that you want to kiss him on the lips. I say this because it worked on me! Good luck!
somedude81 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 "I want you to kiss me." "Kiss me already fool" Pick one, or think of your own
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 My husband didn't kiss me on our 1st two dates. If he hadn't kissed me on the 3rd, I was going to dump him. I'd try the suggestions you have been given but at some point, after you have kissed a guy a few times if he's not doing anything it may be hopeless.
BradJacobs Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 I don't want to have to initiate everything and I am a shy myself. Results that may happen with more investment on your part ... A. He grows a pair and you won't need to initiate any longer. B. He remains shy and you will always seek affirmation that you're in the mood before taking things physical (kissing, sex, etc.). Then there's a whole lot of stuff in the middle. He's probably a great guy and would be a very selfless and attentive lover but may never be the kind of man to take you in a fit of lust. Could you handle that?
Tayken Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Just grab his whatsit....and work him into a frenzy, if he still doesn't get worked up, then he doesn't like women I mean the length you've gone so far for this, some guys don't even get that much opportunity. Perhaps you are just more into him than he is by the sound of things? May be a BJ is his thing, has he held your hand, smack you on the bum / stroke your bum yet (providing you have a bum)?
newmoon Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 he's probably just shy. but in my experience if he's shy and you're not cool with it then just proceed with caution. shy men stay shy - he won't all of a sudden morph into a super sexual-initiating fellow. so if you're doing the initiating now, you'll be doing it later. it sets you up as the aggressor when you always have to kiss first, reach for the hand first, etc. it'll put the relationship out of balance. the best thing for a woman is to meet a guy who pursues you in the 'style' and manner you like - if you're not ok with his slow, shy approach, he might not be a great fit later on. imo.
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