stephen48 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Ive been seeing a girl for a couple months now and things have been going fairly well. She is a couple years younger then me and she still lives at home with her family. Her and her family are very close and she spends 90% of her time with them over friends or anyone else. She has even cut dates short to go home and hang out with them which i found fairly strange. She always seems to be busy doing something with family or working and i don't really get to see her that often (we only live 15 min apart and i see her maybe once a week). Ive asked her to do things a few times and gotten the I'm busy with my family response or i have to work. Or i will text her and she will be busy doing something so i wont bother asking to see each other. At this point I'm not even sure if she is still involved or making her way out. She still seems to want a relationship. She texts me everyday and when we see each other everything seems good, but the lack of seeing each other is starting to bother me. I guess she just seems to busy to be in a relationship at this point. And i feel like I'm just kind of hanging around waiting for her to figure out what she wants. Is it even possible to have a relationship with someone that is so involved with their own family?
soccerrprp Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Is it even possible to have a relationship with someone that is so involved with their own family? The immediate answer to your question is YES. How old are you? She? Is she from a traditional family? What culture? Is she an only child? Some girls (and boys) are simply not interested in making dating a high priority. Too young, too immature or simply not interested at this point. It can also be that her parents are strict and expect that she be with the family for much of her time. She may have responsibilities that demand that she be home. You may be right. She may not be ready for a relationship. You have to answer the question about time for yourself. Maybe she would make a good friend for now. Maybe you should think about dating girls who will give you more time?
Author stephen48 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 I'm 22 and she is 19. Yeah i would say it is a fairly traditional family as for culture regular old north american. And no she has an older brother and a younger sister. She is close with the younger sister not so much the brother. As for her parents they really don't come across as strict or too demanding. And they don't seem to mind me being around. They all appear to like me.She does have responsibilities and i understand that. But i honestly think she uses her family as an excuse over anything else. Like i said she has good friends that she will blow off and she doesn't really put effort in to see them. She just hangs around with her family all the time. To me if you care about someone you make time for them when you can and you want to see them. With her it seems like she just doesn't mind not seeing each other. but at the same time she wants to be in a relationship. Ive never met a girl like this and I'm really just at a loss for what to do.
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Get to know her family better. Then you can hang out with them too.
Author stephen48 Posted February 19, 2014 Author Posted February 19, 2014 I have no problems with her family and they seem to enjoy me being around. I guess I'm used to girls who want to see their boyfriend quite often. But this girl seems to be fine with not seeing each other for weeks. she very rarely asks me to come over i always have to make the plans. But when we do see each other she is all over me. I don't want to be the one to have to do all the work all the time. I'm hung up because i actually like the girl but i dont know if i have the patience to wait for her to figure out what the hell she wants
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