Roses777 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I have somehow stopped myself from contacting her a few times, since I am a very forgiving person and she isn't really. I see her lurking on POF but know if I message her, all of my hard NC would be for nothing. Also, she would just delete it and get angry. She never wanted to speak or see me again, or so she said. I know that she is having problems finding someone. I probably should not know that but I do. Do you think she will remember our LTR despite the time and possibly other guys inbetween our relationship? We split up in mid-December so it's still very fresh for me, at least.
StGeorge22 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 How long were you together for and what are your ages?
Author Roses777 Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Its with my bipolar ii ex who may have Borderline Personality Disorder too. This is what she put on her dating profile: "jeez; "Wishes Her Ex Never Existed. Can You Tell I Hate Him With A Passion!! I can't believe i wasted 4 years of my life with a person like that. If I could warn other woman on here I would..... Whew there, had to get that out there." Yikes. She hates me with such a passion even though we had tons of great memories and I treated her with much love. Edit: She is 29. I am about to turn 31. She has $12k of debt, government-paid schooling and is struggling to pay her hydro and rent. I have practically no debts.
Downtown Posted February 11, 2014 Posted February 11, 2014 Its with my bipolar ii ex who may have Borderline Personality Disorder too.Roses, there is a good chance she suffers from both disorders. A recent large-scale study found that 27% of bipolar-2 sufferers (and 36% of bipolar-1 sufferers) also have full blown BPD. See Table 3 at PubMed Central, Table 3: J Clin Psychiatry. 2008 April; 69(4): 533?545.. If you are interested, I describe 12 differences I've seen between the behaviors of bipolar-1 sufferers (e.g., my adult foster son) and those of BPDers (e.g., my exW). My post is in Harmony's thread at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/self-improvement-personal-well-being/340022-borderline-personality-disorder-17.html#post4754080.
Author Roses777 Posted February 12, 2014 Author Posted February 12, 2014 I would believe that for sure! She always had a horrible memory and made all sorts of crazy claims. She thought the world was going to end due to the 'Mayan Prophecy' so she bought a survival backpack full of tools+food and said I should bring over a bat so we could break into a car and drive out of the apocalyptic ruins of the city. Lots of crazy things. I still miss her though. I just wished I could find someone that I liked MORE and didn't reveal so much baggage..
Musing Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Its with my bipolar ii ex who may have Borderline Personality Disorder too. This is what she put on her dating profile: "jeez; "Wishes Her Ex Never Existed. Can You Tell I Hate Him With A Passion!! I can't believe i wasted 4 years of my life with a person like that. If I could warn other woman on here I would..... Whew there, had to get that out there." Yikes. She hates me with such a passion even though we had tons of great memories and I treated her with much love. Edit: She is 29. I am about to turn 31. She has $12k of debt, government-paid schooling and is struggling to pay her hydro and rent. I have practically no debts. Nearly 1.5 months for me, with a "normal" ex. It's great progress Rose And @ the dating profile - no wonder she's having troubles finding someone. The fact that she got ugly like that is already one strike but putting it on an online dating site? Yeesh if I found a guy that talked like that about his ex I'd avoid at all costs. Shows real character when they get like that. Plus the fact she even devoted space to you..an ex.. on an dating site speaks volumes. Don't get hopes up though, I feel like she may need help if she really is BP/BPD
something237 Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 I had NC for 6months~ and had to contact my ex to ask for money she owed. That was 4 days ago, and I have thought about her every day since. I won't be replying to her messages again and I deleted her number soon as it was sorted... I'm not happy that I had to contact her, it's a bad idea... Don't talk to her. Let her go her own way, and you your own.
Author Roses777 Posted February 13, 2014 Author Posted February 13, 2014 Nearly 1.5 months for me, with a "normal" ex. It's great progress Rose And @ the dating profile - no wonder she's having troubles finding someone. The fact that she got ugly like that is already one strike but putting it on an online dating site? Yeesh if I found a guy that talked like that about his ex I'd avoid at all costs. Shows real character when they get like that. Plus the fact she even devoted space to you..an ex.. on an dating site speaks volumes. Don't get hopes up though, I feel like she may need help if she really is BP/BPD I happened to see her online and now she says outright in her dating profile that she doesn't want to have biological kids since there are so many kids out there who need adoption. That sounds great in theory but I am not sure how many men would agree to that idea. Guys want to pass on their genes. She changes her mind a lot so it's possible that in a few months the biological clock will change her mind.. Who knows? We are still not talking. My friend's female friend, who is roughly 39, thinks that she will calm down and start speaking to me sometime in the future. We will see.
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