mevandi Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Hey I'm a totally stranger to each and everyone of you, so I'm not going to lie about anything at all. I'm a well known person in the world, because of my profession. Almost everyone around me thinks I'm really handsome, funny, intelligent and nice. However, when it comes to relationships or flirtings, I am never successful. Now there's this girl I added on Facebook. We have a number of mutual friends, but we know nothing about each other. How do I start a good conversation without being the "standart creepy guy who hits on girls on facebook". When the first step is done, I'm really good at relationships. I just need to make this first step.
winny Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Take help from one of your mutual friends. Confide in him/her and tell that you are interested in this particular girl. Ask your friend to invite you both to a common party or dinner or outing. Once there you two have a chance to get introduced. 4
Author mevandi Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Take help from one of your mutual friends. Confide in him/her and tell that you are interested in this particular girl. Ask your friend to invite you both to a common party or dinner or outing. Once there you two have a chance to get introduced. the thing is, our mutual friends on facebook are only people who I only know by name.
preraph Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Write her a private message saying, "I understand you know my friend John, who says you are really nice, so I wanted to say hi. Tell her what you do and what city you're from and ask for her to tell you something about her. 2
Author mevandi Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Write her a private message saying, "I understand you know my friend John, who says you are really nice, so I wanted to say hi. Tell her what you do and what city you're from and ask for her to tell you something about her. I really don't wanna use the mutual friends thing :'( should I say a simple "hey" and see how it folds out? or do you have other suggestions?
Author mevandi Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 I really don't wanna use the mutual friends thing :'( should I say a simple "hey" and see how it folds out? or do you have other suggestions? she's a funny girl on twitter, but i'm kind of in a "celeb" situation. should I follow her from there? or should I use my "celeb" skills (I dont know what the hell that means) in another way?
preraph Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Thing is, if you just say hey for no apparent reason other than you think she's pretty, she'll know you just like her cause she's pretty. So better to have some reason to say hey. Wait and watch and see if you have any interests in common and if so, then you can say Hey, we both like to ____.
preraph Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Thing is, if you just say hey for no apparent reason other than you think she's pretty, she'll know you just like her cause she's pretty. So better to have some reason to say hey. Wait and watch and see if you have any interests in common and if so, then you can say Hey, we both like to ____. As far as using your celeb status, as you probably know by now, once someone knows you're famous or have money, you don't know if they like you for you or for your fame or money. So it is best to be very careful before contacting someone and making sure you have some real interests in common first, or you could end up with a hanger-on! People always want something from celebrities, and when they don't get it, they may go online and badmouth you, so do be careful. You might be better off just doing more friend socializing until you meet someone in real life at a party, somebody someone trusts isn't going to turn into a leech! 1
spiderowl Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 It's a difficult one because it's always obvious if someone contacts you directly through Facebook (or even indirectly). I've had guys contact me but they have been excessively creepy and unfriended almost immediately. Honestly, they deserved to be unfriended and were only there because I gave them a chance as they knew someone I did. If a guy were to contact me via Facebook, I'd want him to be a gentleman, not to emphasise the way I looked or anything or say anything sexual, but just to say hello and that it would be nice to exchange messages as I/he sounds interesting. Then it's up to her. It really helps if you have something in common. If you do have friends in common, then that would be the best way to meet her, at an event that a friend organised and invited you both along to. Good luck! 1
Author mevandi Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 (edited) It's a difficult one because it's always obvious if someone contacts you directly through Facebook (or even indirectly). I've had guys contact me but they have been excessively creepy and unfriended almost immediately. Honestly, they deserved to be unfriended and were only there because I gave them a chance as they knew someone I did. If a guy were to contact me via Facebook, I'd want him to be a gentleman, not to emphasise the way I looked or anything or say anything sexual, but just to say hello and that it would be nice to exchange messages as I/he sounds interesting. Then it's up to her. It really helps if you have something in common. If you do have friends in common, then that would be the best way to meet her, at an event that a friend organised and invited you both along to. Good luck! You're right, I would never imagine myself saying "hey you're so pretty" and stuff. I'd just say "hi" and be nice I guess. And yes, I should find some more common things maybe. Also, I'm finding more and more mutual friends -closer ones- so maybe I can actually arrange a meeting Edited February 9, 2014 by mevandi
spiderowl Posted February 9, 2014 Posted February 9, 2014 It is probably best through mutual friends. My online dating experience has been so disappointing because people are frequently not what they claim to be. Other people I know have had positively scary experiences. One would hope that if you were introduced by mutual friends they would at least know something about both parties. If you met her in real life, you might not find her so attractive, who knows? 2
Author mevandi Posted February 9, 2014 Author Posted February 9, 2014 It is probably best through mutual friends. My online dating experience has been so disappointing because people are frequently not what they claim to be. Other people I know have had positively scary experiences. One would hope that if you were introduced by mutual friends they would at least know something about both parties. If you met her in real life, you might not find her so attractive, who knows? very true!
winny Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 Maybe you can write a - "Hey There" to her on Facebook private message. While you work on finding common friends and more about her as a person. But I would request you to not start building a fantasy in your mind about her and putting her up on a pedestal, before you actually know her personally.
kart180 Posted February 10, 2014 Posted February 10, 2014 It is probably best through mutual friends. My online dating experience has been so disappointing because people are frequently not what they claim to be. Other people I know have had positively scary experiences. One would hope that if you were introduced by mutual friends they would at least know something about both parties. If you met her in real life, you might not find her so attractive, who knows? I also scary online saying experiences. Been scammed and I just hate how poele online are never what they really say there are. I hope to meet someone in real life but as I am a new guy who in the states, I doubt I will be invited to weddings or parties. :(
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