anne1707 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 You're in the UK. Try Relate - they are in most main towns.
anne1707 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I need complete space I meant from him texts chats tweets whatever to try and move on from this. Does that mean "forever" space?
Scott Thomas Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Betsy, 1. Confess to your H that you had a fling. 2. Follow Anne's suggestion and tell your H that the OM is pestering you to start the affair. 3. Tell the OM that he needs to stop calling/contacting you and that things are over-forever. If he persists, threaten to tell his wife. Maintain NC and work on your marriage. 4. Ignore all advice, restart the A, get discovered, go through a gut wrenching divorce, and spend the rest of your life sipping tea while pondering about your actions. Dear, which option do you intend to follow? Lying and deception aside, you're lucky you didn't get pregnant on the first place (recall no protection being used). I've been in your shoes so I understand what you're going through. However, is hate to see your daughter grow up in a broken home so I'm going to be firm with you. Let me tell you a story: My friend owns a farm down under. One of his favourite pets was Betty. Betty, being the inquisitive creature she was, always wanted to explore the outback. My friend warned Betty; she would 'Moo' and continue her antics. This happened a few times. One December morning, Betty didn't return from her grazing spree. My friend went to look for her and found her lying at the bottom of a ravine. Caught up in her excitement, Betty accidentally walked off a cliff. The moral of the story: Betsy better wake up or she'll end up like Betty. Cheers!
anne1707 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Scott I actually have always thought she should do number 1 and tell her husband but she refuses to do that. Mind you, she refuses to follow any of the advice she has been given. 1
Scott Thomas Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Seems that she's bent on turning the S into a T.
Scott Thomas Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Betsy? Hopefully, you're still alive and moaning over the OM. When do you intend on answering my queries?
Author Helen A Posted February 8, 2014 Author Posted February 8, 2014 Ah we have had terrible weather here and I'm In the middle of changing my broadband so they've cut it off, had no electric for three hours today. What I've done is - - blocked him off my social media - gone and got a new phone today he can't reach me anymore Told my hub I dropped phone down the toilet. Having some total time to sort me out / not engaging with them/ not seeing them. Not confessing though but will do my best to work on my marriage, why we arw together, why I would do this, issues etc. And honestly hoping to be in a better place soon and not boring you lovely LS peeps to death but thanks for all advice given. 2
anne1707 Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Yay Betsy, I finally got to like one of your posts. How about trying Relate too. They do see individuals, not just couples. 1
Scott Thomas Posted February 8, 2014 Posted February 8, 2014 Is there something that will stop Betsy from repeating this mistake, despite the frequent warnings she received for months? Since Ms Betsy has decided not to confess, is there something that will ensure she abides by this decision. Is there a chance this might come out some time in the future? On a further note, if you discover, at some point in the future, that your partner has a fling, don't get angry/threaten divorce/make him pay etc. Equal Rights for happiness (or flings for that matter)...
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