starla33 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 So went on a great date. Guy asked me out again through text for this weekend. Replied to text and told him what day I was free. Have not heard back. It's been a day. What do you do in this case? Assume the text magincally did not go through? lol
PegNosePete Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Assume that he was abducted by aliens. Or that his wife found the text and grounded him. Or he has a date with another chick that night "round his for dinner". Or that his prison guard will only let him send 3 messages a week, and he's used his quota. Or he was in a car accident and responding to a date text is not high on his priority list. Or any number of other scenarios that may or may not be true!
mammasita Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I would occupy my time with other things. If he doesn't reply by like 4PM today, I would make other plans. Definitely don't wait around. Even if by some chance your text "disappeared" he would follow up if he was exited about taking you out again. 2
PegNosePete Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 See this is what happens when you text. Give him a CALL. 3
Author starla33 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 See this is what happens when you text. Give him a CALL. unfortunately nobody here calls ever so that would be a bit much :/
Author starla33 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 I would occupy my time with other things. If he doesn't reply by like 4PM today, I would make other plans. Definitely don't wait around. Even if by some chance your text "disappeared" he would follow up if he was exited about taking you out again. In my experience people don't follow up twice after a first date 1
soccerrprp Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 He would really be following-up once. Now he knows what day you are free, he will then ask you out, formally, to solidify for that day and time. He could be busy or figuring out how to juggle the other girl or no longer interested....who knows. I would text or give him a call to make certain he did get or notice that text. I, have, on some occasion missed a text and didn't realize it. Text him again (or call, leave a voicemail) and then let it be.
Author starla33 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 He would really be following-up once. Now he knows what day you are free, he will then ask you out, formally, to solidify for that day and time. He could be busy or figuring out how to juggle the other girl or no longer interested....who knows. I would text or give him a call to make certain he did get or notice that text. I, have, on some occasion missed a text and didn't realize it. Text him again (or call, leave a voicemail) and then let it be. What would you say?
winny Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Happened to me. Guy asked me to let him know when am free and when I did he gave vague replies. When I said - looks like u r not interested any more.. He said - Sorry I don't know what I want. Just don't do anything.
winny Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Am gonna try these games on 2 of the guys I exchanged numbers with recently.
soccerrprp Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 What would you say? "Just in case you didn't get my text, I'm free....." Then leave it up to him to respond. If he doesn't move on!
Ruby Slippers Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Don't contact him again. If he really likes you, he'll make sure to lock down that date. If he doesn't, he's just not that interested. Chasing a guy who's lukewarm about you is a dead end. 1
Zahara Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 So went on a great date. Guy asked me out again through text for this weekend. Replied to text and told him what day I was free. Have not heard back. It's been a day. What do you do in this case? Assume the text magincally did not go through? lol You went on one date so I'm sure he's dating other women too. He maybe juggling days and dates. You shouldn't contact or wait around. Make other plans.
MissBee Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 So went on a great date. Guy asked me out again through text for this weekend. Replied to text and told him what day I was free. Have not heard back. It's been a day. What do you do in this case? Assume the text magincally did not go through? lol One reason I despise texting when I'm newly dating...as it can be ambiguous, where sometimes you don't know if someone hasn't received your text or they're ignoring you and it causes extra anxiety and questions, while a phone call is pretty clear. I HATE the text-guessing games and I hate the thought that someone is ignoring me but I'm not sure so need to text again or call to "make sure" it wasn't a technological glitch.... In any case: I'd check back in with him, via a call this time, so you aren't wondering if it went through. If he doesn't pick up or doesn't call back you have your answer. But I do agree that he probably would have followed up even if he didn't see your message, as if he was super excited he'd probably have the same thoughts as you, that maybe you didn't get it so he's gonna try again.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 In any case: I'd check back in with him, via a call this time, so you aren't wondering if it went through. If he doesn't pick up or doesn't call back you have your answer. That sounds desperate to me. And on a related note, I have never and would never accept a date invitation via text. Call me old-fashioned, but I think asking a girl on a date via text is for boys. A man calls you up to make sure it's solidified. 2
MissBee Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 unfortunately nobody here calls ever so that would be a bit much :/ Where is here? I would hate that place. I frickiiiin HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATE texting in a new scenario for these reasons. Texting is fine once we're used to each other or for other things but I get turned off by men who don't call and make things clear in terms of plans to go out. In fact probably all my boyfriends and men I've dated beyond one date were men who picked up the phone and called to make plans and called to confirm them and a text would be maybe to say "On my way" or something like that...that way I didn't have to fret about did a text go through or not or did he not see it or what have you. And texts notoriously "go missing" more so than calls in my own experience, so I just really feel things are clearer when you either make plans in person or have a definitive phone conversation versus sending a text and waiting for a response. 1
MissBee Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 That sounds desperate to me. And on a related note, I have never and would never accept a date invitation via text. Call me old-fashioned, but I think asking a girl on a date via text is for boys. A man calls you up to make sure it's solidified. I agree to the latter. I am old fashioned like that too. Unless we're an established couple or friends, don't text me about dates. CALL ME! If she's going to drive herself crazy wondering if he received the text (which is a slim chance he didn't) then might as well call and say "Hey, how are you doing? Btw are we still on?" If he doesn't answer then it doesn't really matter if she "looks desperate" as she will never see or speak to him again and his opinions of her are irrelevant. If he answers and really didn't get it, things are cleared up and if he answers and is standoffish she also has her answer and can politely hang up and never see him again. If she is going to worry about it then I'd do it and get it over with. Again why I hate text, because I will always second guess like maybe they didn't get it and will feel like I need to know if its the case or not before I write them off, whereas in a phone call/in person it is quite clear and I can just ignore them straight away with no second-guesing lol.
BC1980 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 That sounds desperate to me. And on a related note, I have never and would never accept a date invitation via text. Call me old-fashioned, but I think asking a girl on a date via text is for boys. A man calls you up to make sure it's solidified. Texting has allowed people to be so lazy with communication.
winny Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I have decided that next time any guy asks me out on text I will say - Hey if you really want to ask me out then please pick up the phone and give me a call. Am sure that would weed out some lazy guys who are not much into me.
Phantom888 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If he's super interested, he would text back immediately. He is probably deciding between you and another girl. He wants to keep you hanging in case the other girl cancels. So basically he is waiting for confirmation from someone else whether or not to ask you out. This is how multi-daters do it.
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