Hawk12 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I have gone out with a girl three times now planning on seeing each other again tomorrow night. We have already slept with one another and I really like her. I was wondering if I should ask her to be official as I know she is looking for a relationship or does it just seem too soon? Thanks
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 To me, it seems quite soon. Three dates is very little time. I would hold out a little while longer to be honest, so you can keep getting to know each other, and so she knows you're not desperate to be together. I don't think I'm into games but it's actually a turn on being able to go out with a guy 5-6 times always wondering what he wants because he isn't asking me out. It builds anticipation and makes him seem like a higher quality catch, to me anyway. It obviously feels too soon or you wouldn't have questioned it on here, you'd just have done it. I'd wait another few dates. Most people will say 'if it feels right, go for it' which is another option! Or maybe in the middle you can say to her that you've decided not to see anyone else for now while you carry on getting to know her, and see what she says?
Emilia Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I have gone out with a girl three times now planning on seeing each other again tomorrow night. We have already slept with one another and I really like her. I was wondering if I should ask her to be official as I know she is looking for a relationship or does it just seem too soon? Thanks Of course it isn't too soon. If you can have sex you can talk too. Probably a conversation you should have had before you slept together. 1
PegNosePete Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Well if you're sleeping with each other then presumably neither of you are seeing anyone else anyway. So what's the big deal? You guys across the pond have such a need to put labels on everything 3
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If it feels right to you, it's not too soon. You have already seen each other naked which is a much bigger step to me. You are asking her to be your GF, not your wife.
mammasita Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I may be a dummy.....but Id normally prefer to have that talk before sleeping with someone 3
Shepp Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Three dates an sleeping together - i'd of assumed that probably makes her your girlfriend? Do you need a conversation? If you do, then sure, go for it, there's no reason she'd say no given how she already is.
Author Hawk12 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 I feel like I want to wait longer and get to know her more. Problem is I met her online and I see that she is still logging in everyday, makes me feel like i'm going to lose her if I don't look at committing to her in someway.
PegNosePete Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I met her online and I see that she is still logging in everyday, makes me feel like i'm going to lose her if I don't look at committing to her in someway. How do you know? Are YOU logging in every day as well? Maybe she is seeing you online and thinking exactly the same thing/
Author Hawk12 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 I put a block on my account but I can still see when she is online.
mammasita Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Well, you won't know unless you say something. How deep have your conversations been thus far? You've been on 3 dates, but how long have you been talking....have your dates spanned over 2 weeks, 3 weeks??? 3 days?
Author Hawk12 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Its been over a month but I was also out of town for over a week. Our conversations have been mostly light around family and places we have been to and such, never around a future relationship or what we are exactly looking for. She is tough to read thats for sure. If she would sleep with me youd think she would be interested, but at the same it I get a sense she isnt.
mammasita Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Its been over a month but I was also out of town for over a week. Our conversations have been mostly light around family and places we have been to and such, never around a future relationship or what we are exactly looking for. She is tough to read thats for sure. If she would sleep with me youd think she would be interested, but at the same it I get a sense she isnt. That's not necessarily true. You don't really know her all that well based on your conversations. That said, how do you even know you want this girl to be your girlfriend?? Never the less......you don't have to ask her to be your girlfriend but you can talk about being exclusive and not seeing other people. It's a step in the right direction. Sure, it might be all the same, but as far as titles go - I think it relieves a little bit of the pressure. 1
somedude81 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 T Never the less......you don't have to ask her to be your girlfriend but you can talk about being exclusive and not seeing other people. It's a step in the right direction. Sure, it might be all the same, but as far as titles go - I think it relieves a little bit of the pressure. I agree with mammasita. No need to make things official yet since you barely know each other, but bring up that you want to be exclusive.
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 You have to talk to her. The profiles & the logging in don't stop until you talk about it
Author Hawk12 Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Thanks everyone. I will talk with her tonight.
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