anni87 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Long story short, I was seeing a guy for just over a year. Things happened he cheated, I lied. Everytime I hurt him he would immediately go and either kiss or sleep with someone else. Then when I was incredibly hurt by this he would say "well you hurt me more so it doesn't matter, you hurt me greater". Like he was justified in doing this to me. I never slept with anyone else but him and was planning a life with him. It all ended recently when we he was hurt. He stopped talking to me then we reconciled. He then kept sending me text messages saying that we can be together he will support me etc. I thought this all meant "ok great he is changing i can go and plan with him maybe he will finally commit". I had texts proving that he said this to me... One day after I slept with him he stops answering his phone. He says he needs space. I find out it was because he met some woman off a dating app the very next day and kissed her. He then said he wasn't interested in her and was only comparing her to me?? That I was better. I got really angry and initiated no contact. He said he did nothing wrong. He was depressed and wanted to feel better. He then kept emailing me for days. Telling me how wonderful I was, can we be friends, can we be in each others lives again etc. I replied coldly to him at first just wanting my stuff back. Eventually he insulted me and sent me an abusive email after I said i'd never see him again. For some reason I saw he was hurt and just wanted to make him feel better... so I stopped being cold. I stopped and opened up a little. He then sent me an email saying I was the one who needed help, that he wishes me the best of luck and it was really hard dealing with ME contacting him. He contacted ME! I was happy doing no contact for days until his emails pushed me over the edge. I am just really confused why someone would do this. Why they would push and push to get you to open up and the minute you do they cut you off in this friendly "im okay and you aren't" email. Was it just some sick game?
mikelongtolt Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Long story short, I was seeing a guy for just over a year. Things happened he cheated, I lied. Everytime I hurt him he would immediately go and either kiss or sleep with someone else. Then when I was incredibly hurt by this he would say "well you hurt me more so it doesn't matter, you hurt me greater". Like he was justified in doing this to me. I never slept with anyone else but him and was planning a life with him. It all ended recently when we he was hurt. He stopped talking to me then we reconciled. He then kept sending me text messages saying that we can be together he will support me etc. I thought this all meant "ok great he is changing i can go and plan with him maybe he will finally commit". I had texts proving that he said this to me... One day after I slept with him he stops answering his phone. He says he needs space. I find out it was because he met some woman off a dating app the very next day and kissed her. He then said he wasn't interested in her and was only comparing her to me?? That I was better. I got really angry and initiated no contact. He said he did nothing wrong. He was depressed and wanted to feel better. He then kept emailing me for days. Telling me how wonderful I was, can we be friends, can we be in each others lives again etc. I replied coldly to him at first just wanting my stuff back. Eventually he insulted me and sent me an abusive email after I said i'd never see him again. For some reason I saw he was hurt and just wanted to make him feel better... so I stopped being cold. I stopped and opened up a little. He then sent me an email saying I was the one who needed help, that he wishes me the best of luck and it was really hard dealing with ME contacting him. He contacted ME! I was happy doing no contact for days until his emails pushed me over the edge. I am just really confused why someone would do this. Why they would push and push to get you to open up and the minute you do they cut you off in this friendly "im okay and you aren't" email. Was it just some sick game? He kissed someone else just to make himself better instead of manning up to resolve issues with u like a man with a pair of solid balls!!! He makes u open up to him and then throws u into the slumps just to satisfy his alpha male ego tht he when inside he is an insecured and low self esteem individual. Real men do not need to make others feel small to feel big about themselves. U deserve better and please take care of urself and spend time improving urself so tht u will feel more attractive about urself and so will others who deserve u to be in their lives..... rather than catering to his selfish insecured needs. Good luck my friend.
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