Brown-Eyez Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I've been dating this guy for 5 weeks now we have EXCELLENT physical chemistry in fact, we're alittle like bunnies when we're together.. we also have deep conversations smile alot at each other and have a hard time saying good bye but when we're apart I start thinking about how he's not a romantic guy and other stuff that I'm sorta critical about like he waits to the last minute to ask me out doesn't dress that nice, etc so I'm trying to figure out: am I falling for him and trying to find reasons why he's not good for me (like to protect myself)? (anybody ever done that?) or am I just blinded by our physical chemistry in the moment and then can see him more clearly after we're not with each other? this is driving me crazy, cos now I don't know if I should stay or quit him! ugh!
FitChick Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 What if everything was the opposite: He asked you out, dressed well, was romantic, but there was no sexual chemistry and you didn't have deep chats. Only you know which is more important. 1
Author Brown-Eyez Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 What if everything was the opposite: He asked you out, dressed well, was romantic, but there was no sexual chemistry and you didn't have deep chats. Only you know which is more important. incredibly wise words... that's why i love LS
Author Brown-Eyez Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 What if everything was the opposite: He asked you out, dressed well, was romantic, but there was no sexual chemistry and you didn't have deep chats. Only you know which is more important. why can't I have both??!
D-Lish Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 why can't I have both??! You could go for both if you want to keep searching. You know you can't have both with this guy- and you're not likely to change him. That leaves you with a decision to make.
Author Brown-Eyez Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Ive read that there are 3 sides to a potential relationship: intellectual, physical & emotional the problem is we only realistically can get 2 of the 3.. I currently have the physical & the intellectual but of course I also want the emotional if I search further, I most likely will still get only 2 of the 3 ugh!
D-Lish Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Ive read that there are 3 sides to a potential relationship: intellectual, physical & emotional the problem is we only realistically can get 2 of the 3.. I currently have the physical & the intellectual but of course I also want the emotional if I search further, I most likely will still get only 2 of the 3 ugh! Where did you hear that? I've dated many guys where I've experienced all three components! 1
MissBee Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I've been dating this guy for 5 weeks now we have EXCELLENT physical chemistry in fact, we're alittle like bunnies when we're together.. we also have deep conversations smile alot at each other and have a hard time saying good bye but when we're apart I start thinking about how he's not a romantic guy and other stuff that I'm sorta critical about like he waits to the last minute to ask me out doesn't dress that nice, etc so I'm trying to figure out: am I falling for him and trying to find reasons why he's not good for me (like to protect myself)? (anybody ever done that?) or am I just blinded by our physical chemistry in the moment and then can see him more clearly after we're not with each other? this is driving me crazy, cos now I don't know if I should stay or quit him! ugh! I think it's the latter. Physical chemistry is easy. Doesn't mean the person is a good person or a good match for you. Thinking with your brain and not just your hormones is wise. I have given the advice to women (and men) to have a list, in your mind or actually typed/written down of what you need and want from a partner: emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, character wise, the things that count. A list that you make when you're single and can be more objective. While dating refer to this list and check this person against it, as it is normal and easy to simply be infatuated or just have intense sexual/physical chemistry when they are NOTHING that you need and when red flags are waving in the wind about them. What do you like about him, what is good and what is not good and how important are they? Those are important things and dating is about being critical in terms of choosing what is good for you and what isn't. Physical chemistry fades and if it's all you've got...then that's a problem.
Noproblem Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 why can't I have both??! Because life is not fair
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