Vittoryxe Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Hey all, Question: Has anyone ever had to deal with a guy's or girl's family who is way overbearing for their age? Some context: he and I are early-mid 20s, and he's currently living at home for a period of time to save up for a place and get a good start into grad school, etc. All well and good, except for his parents treat him like he's in high school and get very upset if he doesn't basically do whatever they want him to. It's really sweet how he acts with his siblings and all, but it's been frustrating for me because we'll try to make plans but then he has to go to a sibling's sports game, babysit, go to dinner at a family member's, etc. Also they really seem to not want him to invite me to "family" things with him....not that they don't like me because I think they do, but....I don't know. Like it hasn't been long enough for me to be a part of that or something. I'm not sure. I get it, he lives there for free, all that, but it's not high school anymore! He's a grown-ass man who, despite living at home, should be able to make his own decisions. Sure, some chores/responsibilities/whatever, but this is to the extreme. I get that this is a limited-time deal, since he's hopefully going to be getting a place in the next few months, but until then, how should I deal with this? I've been having some trouble approaching it with him because it seems to be a bit of a sensitive subject, but it's just been frustrating me a lot lately, and I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance!
TXGuy Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I think this might be something you have to suffer silently through or reevaluate if you want to continue dating him. I'm sure he is well aware of the fact tat his current living conditions are crimping his style. But apparently, that is the trade-off for a rent free existence. If he decides to work out something more structured with his parents, it should be his decision. I think if you push for it, it could backfire. But, it really sounds frustrating for both of you.
Author Vittoryxe Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Thanks for the reply. Yeah, it's frustrating, but he's a really, really good guy, and when I do get to see him, it's wonderful. We also try to communicate a lot by text/phone, etc. Again, limited-time deal. Maybe I'm looking for coping strategies? I don't know, really.
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