Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If you are in a relationship, and your girl says or has said that she doesn't want anything for valentines day.... She is lying. Its a trap. If you do not get her anything, she will at most be mad at you, and at the least she will resent you for it. Do not fall for it. Even if she says nothing, you still get her something. Something small and UNIQUE. Not this cards and flowers BS. Be original but keep it less than 15 dollars. Try and keep it tailored to what her interests are. Again, If she says " I don't want anything this year honey " and you day " okay babe ". You will be in the doghouse by 11pm on the 14th. You are welcome. 13
GoreSP Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Actually, I have told boyfriends I wanted nothing for Valentine's Day. And meant it. But yeah they also all thought it was a trap lol 1
Author Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Actually, I have told boyfriends I wanted nothing for Valentine's Day. And meant it. But yeah they also all thought it was a trap lol Some girls might even mean it when they say it. But then when they see all their friends / family / co workers getting things, they will get jealous. 3
GoreSP Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Some girls might even mean it when they say it. But then when they see all their friends / family / co workers getting things, they will get jealous. Hum. No, not really.
Phoe Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Not true. Certainly wouldn't be for me. I'll be thrilled if I even get to see him on the 14th. I have ridiculous work hours for the 13th 14th and 15th and will be happy to just get a few hours in. After a long day at work all I ever want is to just snuggle up in bed with him and get some rest. This will be my first ever valentines day with someone and it's just stressing me out. I don't know what to do! Right about now I'm wishing the day would just come and go unnoticed.
GoreSP Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Not true. Certainly wouldn't be for me. I'll be thrilled if I even get to see him on the 14th. I have ridiculous work hours for the 13th 14th and 15th and will be happy to just get a few hours in. After a long day at work all I ever want is to just snuggle up in bed with him and get some rest. This will be my first ever valentines day with someone and it's just stressing me out. I don't know what to do! Right about now I'm wishing the day would just come and go unnoticed. Yeaaaah me too but for different reasons lol
Author Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 This is also a topic that's incredibly difficult to get women to be honest about. I mean I can't speak for anyone personally, but this is so common, you can practically write an equation out of it. I think its just best that all men know this disclaimer, lest an argument break out on this day that goes something like " you didn't get me anything " and then he says " you said not to " and she says " you should have anyway because you wanted to " Or something like that. Just roll with it guys. 1
Phoe Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I think its just best that all men know this disclaimer, lest an argument break out on this day that goes something like " you didn't get me anything " and then he says " you said not to " and she says " you should have anyway because you wanted to " ...But that is such illogical behavior. If someone seriously behaves that way I'd feel it's a bit of a red flag. It's just ridiculous game playing. 5
Author Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 ...But that is such illogical behavior. If someone seriously behaves that way I'd feel it's a bit of a red flag. It's just ridiculous game playing. I know phoe... I know. Its not logical, but ( please do not be offended, I mean absolutely no disrespect by this ) women are not known as the logical ones. Also, in your situation, being your VERY FIRST couples Valentine's day, I can understand you not worrying about a gift. The veterans however.... 3
imatradie81 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Valentines day is the perfect day to be cliche, I like the idea of a day to be corny, buy flowers and chocolates and all that stuff, I like the idea of celebrating a day where everyone appreciates their partner and all couples do it together. Of course, if it's the only day you do it, you've got issues and your relationship should have lots of small moments where you show you appreciate and love them. and $15 what could you possibly buy for $15. 4
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Specific prohibitions should be honored however. I love roses & DH knows this but I have made it very clear to him (& every other man I ever dated) that I absolutely did not want roses for Valentine's Day. The absurd mark-up just makes me nuts. I also tell DH to get me a card & a small box of chocolate on the 14th but that I expect the 1/2 price HUGE box on the 15th.
carhill Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If you are in a relationship, and your girl says or has said that she doesn't want anything for valentines day.... Yeah, my exW used to say that all the time; I'd still make her a homemade card or get her a gift of some sort or cook her a special dinner. TBH, it's a good thing I didn't react negatively to a lifetime of lack of V-days and BD's. Otherwise I'd have ended up a tower shooter. I guess everything works out. 1
Author Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Valentines day is the perfect day to be cliche, I like the idea of a day to be corny, buy flowers and chocolates and all that stuff, I like the idea of celebrating a day where everyone appreciates their partner and all couples do it together. Of course, if it's the only day you do it, you've got issues and your relationship should have lots of small moments where you show you appreciate and love them. and $15 what could you possibly buy for $15. Shouldn't really about the amount of money, but what he does with it. I can MAKE something awesome for 15$ That will be worth way more to her than the heart holding Teddy bear that 15 thousand other women will be getting. To bad I have no one to make anything for 2
lollipopspot Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I think its just best that all men know this disclaimer, lest an argument break out on this day that goes something like... I know phoe... I know. Its not logical, but ( please do not be offended, I mean absolutely no disrespect by this ) women are not known as the logical ones. All men should do this...all women want this...women are illogical... Stop with the stereotypes already, it's offensive. No wonder why half the threads on here turn into a gender war. 3
KathyM Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Just about all women love flowers, unless they have allergies. You really can't go wrong with flowers. Just don't get red roses unless you actually love the woman. I've come to realize that the majority of men are not too creative or skilled at gift giving, so they need suggestions. Stick with the flowers. Candy is risky, because the woman may not want the extra calories, but you really can't go wrong with flowers. A lot of the supermarkets have fresh flowers that are not expensive, so if money is an issue, I'd suggest going there. 3
almond Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I genuinely don't care about Valentine's day - never have. It's a normal day for us. The only difference is a quick text saying "Happy Valentine's day" if one of us remembers, and I'll put a little extra effort into my blow job tonight.
lollipopspot Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 If someone tells you they don't want something, give them respect and believe them. Yes, there are women who don't like flowers. Usually they're doused in pesticides, and I don't enjoy watching them wilt. They're a waste of money. I'm clear about my wants though. I don't play games or assume that "all women want flowers on valentines day!" or "all men want (whatever)." If it's your partner, you should know what they like beyond some canned gift that people usually give on holidays.
melell Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 This is also a topic that's incredibly difficult to get women to be honest about. I mean I can't speak for anyone personally, but this is so common, you can practically write an equation out of it. I think its just best that all men know this disclaimer, lest an argument break out on this day that goes something like " you didn't get me anything " and then he says " you said not to " and she says " you should have anyway because you wanted to " Or something like that. Just roll with it guys. Yeah I have to agree. I am female and disagree with the female posters on this one. You may say you wouldn't care and it is fine, really the gesture counts for a lot. Yes, it isn't life or death, and you wouldn't care that much, and you'll mean it when you tell them not to get you something, but underneath it all you aren't going to feel that great if you get no gesture at all. Sure it won't ruin your relationship, and it isn't the worst thing ever, but your girlfriend is going to notice and think about it on some level. I am someone that is very unromantic, and anti material indulgence, but I would notice that the thought wasn't there. If you don't get them a gift give them a card, cook a special dinner etc, some romantic effort will do the trick. 2
Trimmer Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 To bad I have no one to make anything for Really? I would never have guessed!
newmoon Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I always say I don't want anything and not to get me anything, but I'd be pretty bummed if I got nothing. A dinner, a card, even a text will do. It's nice for the guy to at least acknowledge the day in some way - he doesn't have to buy a thing, but some loving gesture. Every guy I've ever dated has come through in some way or another - men are pretty well-trained I think.
Grumpybutfun Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Really? I would never have guessed! When Keenly falls in love with a real genuine sweetheart, he is going to be an amazing husband and father if he chooses. Remember that people have been hurt. He is a good guy. G 5
Grumpybutfun Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 I love Valentines day....we do gags and they are fun...I took a pic of me in my work boots and a hard hat for my girl. Love should be something we celebrate everyday. G 3
Author Keenly Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 All men should do this...all women want this...women are illogical... Stop with the stereotypes already, it's offensive. No wonder why half the threads on here turn into a gender war. If the shoe fits? There is a point to all this, and its not for women. The point is getting a gift for a woman who said she didn't want one ( and actually MEANT it ) will get you in FAR less trouble then not getting a gift for a woman who said it and didn't mean it. I'd like to keep couples as argument free as I possibly can. 1
Speakingofwhich Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Shouldn't really about the amount of money, but what he does with it. I can MAKE something awesome for 15$ That will be worth way more to her than the heart holding Teddy bear that 15 thousand other women will be getting. To bad I have no one to make anything for Why don't you find someone who won't be getting a Valentine to make something for? Do you have a widowed relative or neighbor? Could be fun!
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