amyO Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 I met this guy back in October. At first I didn't think much of him since I still had feelings for someone else. Also, he was on and off with his girlfriend. He would come visit my dorm room a lot and hangout with my roommate and I. He would innocently flirt with me, but I figured it was nothing. We would text a lot and would tell each other jokes or ask what we were doing on the weekends. He never said anything at all inappropriate to me. I guess we both started really falling for each other and it was evident to all our friends how much we got a long. I know it sounds bad that he has a girlfriend, but they have been on the fritz for a long time and it just so happened that we met. Last friday, we went to a concert with our friends. He kept trying to put his arm around me, but i was unsure what to do. I know he is still with his girlfriend and I felt awkward. We hung out Saturday night just sitting and talking and everything was fine. Come this past Tuesday i felt he was acting strange towards me. It was really weird. I tried texting him yesterday and he didn't continue our conversation. I feel like something I said or did made him distance himself. I know this probably all sounds awful, but i guess i just have a lot of feelings for him. I would be sad to lose him in general as a friend. I don't know why after months of talking and everything being fine that he would all of a sudden back away.
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2014 Posted February 6, 2014 You need to talk to him. Do not attempt to clear this up via text. Next time you see him, make it clear that you are not a "homewrecker" but that until he & his GF have officially been over for a while all you want is friendship. If you want more then friendship & don't think you will be able to resist being the OW, keep some distance in your relationship & don't let yourself be alone with him.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Perhaps his girlfriend found out what he's been up to? Maybe he had a reality check and realized his behaviour with you was heading down a slippery slope? It would be wise to minimize contact with him anyway. Unless and until he actually breaks up with his girlfriend, back away. Don't become that girl that knowingly and actively engages with someone else's boyfriend. Not cool.
Phantom888 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Maybe he decided to go permanent with his girlfriend?
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